Why are women intimately afraid of virgin men?

Well, speaking as a woman, I personally am not "intimately afraid" of virgin men. It just varies from woman to woman. I don't really have a really set preference but I tend to think it's nice when a guy is a virgin. As for expecting the guy to lead the sex...well that's just unreasonable. If women want to have equality in society then why keep insisting on being lead? Plus it's not fair on the guy, why should he HAVE to have more experience? Everyone starts somewhere.

As I said, it really depends on the point of view of the person. But, in my opinion, if the person is open minded and intelligent, I don't think they would have such a fear.

From my own perspective, I would not want to get with a virgin because I am afraid he would not be able to please me. A lot of women look back at the first episodes with high school sweethearts and cringe with memories of how bad it was. Sometimes it can take a while until the guy gets the hang of real techniques instead of just stabbing recklessly. Once a woman has been with someone who knows how to put it down well, going back to disappointing encounters would be very frustrating. I am sorry if that is not what you wanted to hear, but it is the truth. If you are with someone who truly loves you, then it won't seem like such a big deal to work together and get past the early awkwardness, even if it will not be the best time for her.

Afraid of virgins, no.

But before I came out as a lesbian, I had sex with several men -- experienced and inexperienced alike -- and I can tell you that sex with a man who doesn't know what he's doing is incredibly frustrating, and boring, and not AT ALL enjoyable or satisfying. Sex with a man who DOES know what he's doing is actually sort of fun -- still, for me, its lacking in the emotional intimacy and closeness that I would need in a long-term relationship, which I find I can only get from women -- but physically gratifying and fun.

The first guy I ever had sex with, for example, had NO CLUE that I had a clitoris, for example -- never mind where it was or what to do with it -- and when I tried, after a while, to show him -- he actually got insulted because I was criticizing his bedroom performance! And he wasn't a teenager, either, he was 27 years old!!

Sorry, even if I was emotionally attracted to a deep relationship with a man, I wouldn't get involved with a man who didn't have the requisite bedroom experience.

I think after years of sexual denial. Women have been liberated to enjoy sex as much as men. Since they were the"experts" in the bedroom, women still expect a man to know what to do. We do have a high demand for good sex too. I guess since normally it is up to the women to put out, we expect that what we give will be equal in return. I am not afraid of a virgin. I would just prefer someone who knows what a women likes.

at my age (not married, still young, whatever), it doesn't bother me. virgin guys actually help my confidence, which most women need help with anyways. and everything is more comfortable because they seem to take things slower and gentler and more romantic, which many of us women would prefer sometimes.

but that's at my age. i wouldn't want to marry a virgin though. sex needs to be something that we can share together before we get that serious in the first place.

man whores are a turn off to me. mostly because i know guys will ignore an STD if they have one. and i don't trust them to tell me the truth. so i stay away from them.

i can respect a guy who has been with a couple women, maybe a few. man sluts are a big no-go. and virgins are borderline if you catch them early enough, hah.

good luck with whatever you needed this question answered for.

I think as women we expect a man to know what he is doing, it's part of our desire to have sex with him. Personally I am not afraid of a man who is a virgin, but dealing with my own experience, having sex with a man who is a virgin is a little awkward for both involved. On the flip side everyone has to start somewhere and just because it's awkward at first doesn't mean it can't be great as the two of you get used to one another and know what turns eachother on.

I think it's b/c they are scared of not knowing what might happen. With an experienced person, they know what's bound to happen, so they know what to expect frm them. However, with a virgin, it's totally different, b/c it's their 1st time and they don't know what to expect. If the sex will be good or bad, negative or positive. They might feel as though the sexual quality won't be/isn't good enough, b/c they are virgins & they don't know much about sex. So they assume virgins don't know what they're doing.

Here is my opinion as a virgin male waiting for a nice girl

The women you meet out and about, at work etc are not shy. Therefore, they are more likely to have been around and know what sex is about.

The quieter, shyer more decent type of ladies lead a different, hidden life. These are most likely virgins or ladies who respect themselves enough to value anybody and feel the relationship is about more than just sex.

Because they are rarely at bars and clubs and are more likely to be helping and caring for a member of their family or they are more likely to not be as prevalent in the workforce they are overlooked.

The nice women are like nice guys, waiting for the right girl to come along who does not care as much about sex. These women have tarnished ideas of sex from members of our sub species who have abused or taken advantage of them is some way.

You see these girls often grocery shopping with their grandmother/mother or nieces and nephews who people assume are theirs. You see these women in the gardening section of the nursery. They are the peaceful types who love gardening and living the quiet life. You often see these women at church groups or family gatherings, at the beach, just reflecting.

How do I know this? I have an eye for nice girls. That is how I met my ex girlfriend and she was awesome. Quiet and shy at first but once I got to know her I realised people who over looked her were missing out on something wonderful. She was the smartest, most intelligent, most decent and respectful girl I had ever met. We moved on and outgrew each other but she will always have a special place in my heart. Sorry to digress.

i'm not. i lost mine to a guy who was also a virgin and though there were some seriously awkward moments, we were able to laugh together about it later, after we'd had a chance to practice.

having said that, a lot of women still want the man to lead the way in that department. maybe what they are really afraid of is appearing to be slutty or something along those lines.

I'm not afraid of virgin men. With all these Sexually transmitted infections going around, it wouldn't be such a bad thing if a guy is a virgin.

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