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A question about fellowship?

I have been wanting to ask this, I just couldn't find the words to ask it. If the Bible says not to confide in others in the world, including other Christians, then why is it important for us to fellowship with other brethren in the body of Christ? I am also asking this question because ever since my preacher friend and his family moved to a different state and other friends from my church have moved too, and I have a tendency of becoming too dependent on people rather than God, I have been isolating because of my lack of balance with that and because I am having problems handling all my friends moving away and it's been a year since they have been gone. Also, people are not perfect, including me, and I don't want to risk getting hurt, whereas God will never, ever move away from me, nor will he ever hurt me, plus regardless if I hurt him, whether it is intentional or unintentional, he will always forgive me. I guess I am just not very good on dealing with change, depending on the kind of change it is. How do you cope with the pain and suffering of friends moving away and isolating yourself due to a lack of trust?

Update:

Actually, it's been 2 years altogether since my friends have left.

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    Were still here for you. The act of praising ones God should be fulfilling not a drudgery. It's for this reason that there is all kinds of music that praises God. Psalm 149:1 Praise ye the LORD. Sing unto the LORD a new song, [and] his praise in the congregation of saints.(KJV) But for some they'd rather to get to a place where they can spill their hearts to the Lord with out others interrupting what God is doing Matthew 6:6 But thou, when thou prayest, enter into thy closet, and when thou hast shut thy door, pray to thy Father which is in secret; and thy Father which seeth in secret shall reward thee openly.(KJV) Psalm 149:5 Let the saints be joyful in glory: let them sing aloud upon their beds.(KJV)

    But in Heaven there will be a lot of singing so you might as well get use to it. Psalm 30:4 Sing unto the LORD, O ye saints of his, and give thanks at the remembrance of his holiness.(KJV)

    Revelation 3:16

    So then because thou art lukewarm, and neither cold nor hot, I will spue thee out of my mouth.(KJV)

    You have unbelief in your heart you said so out of your own mouth sooooooooo who is to correct and guide if you don't seek Gods face and will by entering into his presence through praise and worship Psalm 89:5 And the heavens shall praise thy wonders, O LORD: thy faithfulness also in the congregation of the saints.(KJV)

    Revelation 3:13

    He that hath an ear, let him hear what the Spirit saith unto the churches.(KJV)

    That's why we shouldn't forsake the gathering of the saints and the anointed men of God placed to intercede and teach how else will you understand the mystery's of creation.

    If a man can split a atom and cause such destruction why is it so hard to believe a all powerful and knowing God to be able to do greater and create not destroy and control these same atoms?

    Colossians 1:26

    [Even] the mystery which hath been hid from ages and from generations, but now is made manifest to his saints:(KJV)

    Proverbs 2:6 For the LORD giveth wisdom: out of his mouth [cometh] knowledge and understanding.(KJV)

    Psalm 50:5

    Gather my saints together unto me; those that have made a covenant with me by sacrifice.(KJV) Psalm 89:7 God is greatly to be feared in the assembly of the saints, and to be had in reverence of all [them that are] about him.(KJV)

    Psalm 89:5 And the heavens shall praise thy wonders, O LORD: thy faithfulness also in the congregation of the saints.(KJV)

    Daniel 7:18

    But the saints of the most High shall take the kingdom, and possess the kingdom for ever, even for ever and ever.(KJV)

    Listen my greatest loss was my first wife whom went ahead of me in 2003 with out sing to the Lord I don't think I could have made it, besides there is no distance in the spirit. Be it just communing with them or being translated into anothers presence, prayers is a powerfull tool become sensitive to your spirit and thru Christ you can let them know your there and when they're praying for you too..........

    Luke 22:32 But I have prayed for thee, that thy faith fail not: and when thou art converted, strengthen thy brethren.

    James 4:11 Speak not evil one of another, brethren. He that speaketh evil of his brother, and judgeth his brother, speaketh evil of the law, and judgeth the law: but if thou judge the law, thou art not a doer of the law, but a judge.

    James 5:7 Be patient therefore, brethren, unto the coming of the Lord. Behold, the husbandman waiteth for the precious fruit of the earth, and hath long patience for it, until he receive the early and latter rain.

    1 Peter 1:22 Seeing ye have purified your souls in obeying the truth through the Spirit unto unfeigned love of the brethren, see that ye love one another with a pure heart fervently:

  • 1 decade ago

    ((((((Huggie)))))))) Here's a big Christian hug! That is a hard thing to deal with. We're all your friends and fellowship on here. Where in the bible did the Lord say not to trust our Christian brothers and sisters? What I get from reading those passages is that they are the only ones in the world you can trust if they are real Christians. You need to let other people near you to replace the friends that moved away. Not that they will replace them, I don't mean that, I mean to fill the void you have since they moved. God works all things for good to those who love Him. I'm sure though this feels bad to you that God will work some good things for you through it. I will pray for you, dear sister.

    Kristevonne

  • 1 decade ago

    Your predicament is a difficult one. The Bible does indeed tell us to seek the council and advice of Church elders. The problem there lies in the fact that many elders are appointed on social status rather than on Godly principles. The Bible also tells us not to put our trust in any man, fo he will surely let you down. Weigh any advice or council that you receive against God's word.

    As for dealing with the pain of trusted friends moving away. I am probably not the best one to give advice. I was deeply hurt in my youth and have very few friends since. At present I have one person who I can consider a true friend. True friends are hard to come by. I feel that if a person has one true friend in their life time they are indeed fortunate. A true friend is a person who can be counted on in any situation. Counted on to advise you on doing what is right, to drop everything and come to your aid no matter the circumstances. Also a true friend will not not aid you in doing wrong but will steer you into doing right even if it angers you, But no matter what a true friend will always be there when needed.

    I hope this is somewhat helpful

    God bless

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    First, I love your avatar picture! I know that God says that you cannot trust man(mankind) because of evil in their hearts, but there is always someone that God places in your life that will be closer than a brother. So what I mean to say 'wait on the Lord' and a friend will show up. And you can even pray for that 'friend'. But meanwhile as you know God the Father and Jesus can be trusted as your best friend. I had felt so alone almost all my life but I do have a few close friends. And sometimes I am alone from them and in those times my Father is there and always listening. He says 'Draw near to Me, and I will draw near to you.' So God bless you and I hope this helps.

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  • 1 decade ago

    This has happened in so many churches down through the years and will probably continue to do so until Christ the Lord comes back again. Why people do this I do not know why. This has also happened to me so I know your feeling myself. It's like you did something wrong and they left you. But you did nothing wrong. Just stay close to God and pray. He has you where He needs you if not you would not be there. Serve Him with gladness and worship His Holy Name. Tell others about Jesus Christ where you live and you will be doing just what God intended for you to do.

    Good luck in your work for the Lord!

    nfd♥

    Lover of my Lord Jesus Christ

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Just pray that the Lord give you comfort, strength and peace of mind to help you get over the fact that someone close to you had to move. Ask him to help you trust more easily and to bring someone else good in your life. I would say pray taht God brings them back to you but i dont know if that it's Gods will. I hope things get better for you tho. Take care *BIG hugs*

    Sounds like you have your head on straight. Thats awsome. I'm sure Gods very proud of you.

    Source(s): Proud Christian
  • wren
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago

    I was in a similar situation a few years ago so I asked God to bring people to me who He wanted me to be friends with and He has been faithful.

    For ages at work, I was the only Christian and whilst I enjoyed light friendships with my colleagues, there was nothing serious or anyone to talk too, who understood my need to have a close relationship to my God.

    I had been hurt in the past trusting people, who appeared to be friends, so now I wait on the Lord's timing because it is perfect always. He will bring to mind anything that is not right with Him in relation to other people, so that you will not go in head first, setting yourself up to be hurt.

    It's like He 'screens' the people whom He wants you to be friends with and because He knows the future, He knows who will ultimately be right for you.............

    ..........and remember, to always thank Him in every situation and praise Him. Praising Him, takes our mind, off our worries, and gives worship to the One who has loved us for so long.

    Hope this has been of assistance because prayer should always be our first defense.

    Let all our requests be known to Him and know also that it doesn't always happen straight away. I waited over 2 years but His peace covered me in the meantime.

    I will pray for you too. God Bless...

    Source(s): Life.......... psss........ the friends I have now are all close to me and I believe that they have all been handpicked just for me , so I pray that too for you ! I send you a big hug too.
  • 1 decade ago

    okay when you mention confide you are misinformed; what God tells us is that we cannot place our faith or trust on men for men will deceive us, hurt us, lie to us, etc because of our human nature even if that person you confide in is a Christian so God warns us for He knows that misplacing our faith on others rather than God will lead us astray so trust in God (it seems you have your own answer) and He will never forsake you. Trust God will all your love, your strength, your mind, and your spirit. There is a song---Lazy Jane and it gives a message such as you are or endured--the girl in the song trusted her friends but her friends fell to temptation and the girl becomes aware that only God is faithful and true.

    Source(s): me, your friendly Pentecostal
  • 1 decade ago

    we have fellowship to encourage and help keep our bros/sis from falling. we shouldn't depend on people b/c people are nothing compared to God. they die and turn to dust whereas God is eternal and forever.

    Man is like a breath;

    his days are like a fleeting shadow.

    ~ Psalm 144:4

    i deal w/ pain by just trusting in God and trying to move on, even though it may be hard. i don't like change too but i've learned to accept it.. it's inevitable. but 1 really important thing that'll never change is God being always there for you, everyone.

    Source(s): a 21 y/o re-born Christian
  • ?
    Lv 4
    4 years ago

    He does no longer fellowship with sinners He cleanses them and makes them sparkling so as that they then could have fellowship with Him One has to have fellowship with God our writer or we will not in any respect understand who God is and what His will for you is they had to be cleansed even interior the OT to return in the previous God For whilst they sinned God separated Himself from them and did no longer stand for them and that they've been by myself without Him and its No distinctive interior the NT and its nonetheless no difference immediately God is an identical , the day gone by , immediately and invariably he ameliorations no longer IF Sin is on your existence...God isn't there Your sin separates God from You he won't stay in an unclean Temple there is no such element as love the sinner hate the sin God does no longer , nor can look upon sin so how then can he be with the sinner ? He hates a mendacity tongue , so how then does He love the mouth its in ? if Sin is in , .....God is Out If God is in , sin shouldn't take place !! God is Holy and Righteous So could desire to we be holy and ideal unto the Lord its our sensible provider to realize this !!

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I don't know where you think the Bible says not to donfide in other, including Christians. I have read the Bible from cover to cover to cover several times, and I study the Bible regularly, but I don't remember reading that statement anywhere in the Bible. A lot of the things I have read in the Bible contradict the statement you presented as having come from the Bible. Please advise where this statement can be found in the Bible. Email your response to me if you would like.

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