Terror of a cousin!!?

What are you talking about? My 15 month old doesn't even understand words yet, you want him to be able to pick things up after knocking them down? That's still a baby!

He's only 15 months old! I'm not going to be too hard on you because I understand you're only concerned about your newborns safety, but the actions you explained are normal for a toddler. You're going to find yourself thinking of this question in 13 months and probably be embarassed.

Anyway, talk to your husbands relatives (or have him talk to them if you aren't comfortable) and tell them that they you want them to come around, but need them to keep a very watchful eye on their son while they are there. That'll take care of your house being destroyed. Your son is too young to be influenced by an active toddler right now & you won't need to worry about that for about a year. By that time, hopefully his cousin will have calmed down a bit. If not, it's your responsibility to teach your son how to behave regardless of outside influences (that will always be around & you will not be able to prevent).

If the parents don't set rules, you can still set rules at your house. It's that simple. Plus I would never, ever, ever leave or allow a 15 month old alone or touch the baby without MAJOR supervision (like holding his hand to touch the baby once).

Plus the child isn't exactly a menace.....You'll learn that at 15 months, this is the beginning of "terrible two's". He might outgrow it and become a nice child. But don't hesitate to establish rules in YOUR home.

Try reading "The Happiest Toddler on the Block" by Harvey Karp about setting rules appropriate to the child's age.

This sounds like a typical 15 month old so get ready! The discipline part is probably why he's so destructive, hes got no rules or guidelines. If I were you I'd give him your own rules in your own house. Maybe the parents will pick up on it and feel its a good way to deal with his behavior. A simple "no" can go a long way with a kid this age.

First and foremost, this is your house and your child. You have the right to set the rules in your house and his parents need to understand that or they don't need to visit. Your husband needs to stands behind you and back up the rules you set in place. I would wait until they come over and when their little demon child starts acting up state your rules. If they can't keep him under control, they leave. Yes this will ruffle some feathers, but keep in mind you are keeping your baby safe and they will get over it or they just won't visit. You can also ask them to visit without their child if they want to spend time with your new baby. Good luck!!!

Your house.

Set ground rules.

Defend your child and his space.

Ask his parents to take him home if is not able to behave

or play safely in your home.

Stand up for your self and your child, you are the parent,

not them.

Try to minimize visits with them.

Make sure they call first.

Watch your baby very carefully. And definitely have

you husband talk to them about the ground rules and

that you and them are respected.

hang in there. We all encounter people like that on a daily

basis and we have to decide what we will let our children

be exposed too. And not let others decide for us.

I would stay next to your baby at all times when they are there , but if he can't behave in your home your going to have to say to his parents to stop him misbehaving in your home or you will not allow the child in until he can behave (they should respect that if not there not worth worrying about family or not )

he might suprise you and behave if you say the baby needs piece and quiet or he will wake up and cry

you have to think on his level

just a thought but do you have any toys there for the toddler to keep him entertained ?

this is largely a nightmare, a nighttime terror is something completely diverse. you're able to hold her, consult from her, ask if she needs to circulate to the showering room or get a drink and frequently convenience her. stable good fortune :)

tell your husband exactly how you feel, when they come over dont go out of your way to please them so they want to come back, juswt be polite, your gonna probably going to have to come up with "excuses" as to why they can't come over (verysad but they'll get the hint) you just now know how not to raise your son.

oh my god, this is MY life!!!

my daughter is 14mos - generally well behaved, my niece is 2.5yrs old and the anti-christ.

i think you just need to say - look, you KNOW that kid is naughty, but while he is around my newborn, you NEED to control him.

these are my previous Qs on this:

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