Help for my 17 year old daughter?

Well, the best thing you can do is just let her know that you are there for her as a father. As she goes through life, she *is* going to get hurt & there's not much that you can do about that unless you are going to lock her up for the rest of her life.

Try to give her a positive role model to judge men by. Want her to pick good men? Show her how men should treat their women & treat your wife/girlfriend like a queen. Don't get drunk or scream at her. You know, the normal stuff that parents should do.

Make sure that you make your daughter feel attractive & appreciated. If she looks nice, say so. If she did well, tell her. If you are proud of her, let her know. She may roll her eyes & go "oh, dad", but trust me... those types of things make a daughter's day. If you criticize, do it gently. Don't point out things in a cruel light, even if you think that you are helping. (My dad once compared my thighs to a loose bag of cottage cheese. Now he wonders why I have such body issues.) I know that you may go "well, I don't say it like that", but sometimes it does come out wrong. Think before you speak & speak like you'd like to be spoken to.

Again, just be there for your daughter. That's what counts most in the long run.

Sounds rare. I don't really think there's anything you can do as a parent, you've obviously done a great job bring her up the way that she is and holding the values that she seems to hold. So good job on that. She's turning 18 soon which means she'll start to become an adult. The best you can do is just support her and give her the best advice you can. It gets messy when a parents gets involved in these things. Encourage her to find new friends that are appreciative. Talk to her about. Are they not inviting her because she doesn't smoke/drink, etc? That could very much be the case...in that case, it might be a good idea to start finding new friends that are your friends and ones that would not pressure her into these things just so she can hang out with them.

Hope this helps. Good luck and all the best

Well - it's a bit late to impose restrictions on the friends she chooses but you could ask her if she's ever writtten a list of what character qualities are acceptable and which are not - this, of course, includes anyone she dates. You, or her mother, could discuss a three-column page with the third column listing names of the person, or people, who have the particular characteristic. Your daughter sounds like a peach of a person but must learn to be more positive about herself and her choices and not accept second-best. This isn't any easy age but she does appear to have her heart pointed in the right direction which is in keeping with a giving nature. The difficulty with being too giving is the person is, often, taken advantage of.

How well do you know her friends? Has your wife extended an invitation to one, or two, friends to come to dinner? This should be done via the friends' parents since, I assume, her friends are also, 17. When an invitation is extended, in this manner, it places the responsibility on the parent to see to it that their child either, graciously declines, or accepts. This is what my parents did (in the Olden Days) so they could get to know the kids we spent our time with.

My sister, and I, had a definite curfew and weren't permitted to date anyone who wasn't invited to come to meet our parents prior to the date. We, also, weren't allowed to single-date until we went to college. I keep hearing, from friends with teens, how Everything is Different Now - the only "different" I've noticed is that many parents seem to be too busy working to teach their children the Rules of socially acceptable behaviour so, the present generation is a very rude and self-centred one - as you've noticed with her friends. Your daughter needs to learn that marginal isn't acceptable when it comes to friendships so she may need to take a short break, and a step back, from the girls she now calls friends, to determine what a friendship should be and what it shouldn't be. Many girls your daughter's age are shy - she needs to latch onto something she's, really, good at and build her self-confidence on this base. She sounds like the type of person who would be a terrific school-teacher and, perhaps, needs to be encouraged in investigating what her career plans are - does her school test students to determine what career field they are best suited for? Once she has a goal in mind, it should give her a boost of determination to achieve it - perhaps, a talk with some of her teachers might be helpful to you.

Is great you are such a concerned parent.

to no longer try to offend you, yet you genuinely ought to enable your daughter stay her own existence. A 12 months or 2 12 months age hollow isn't a great deal. Its while there's a 17 12 months previous and a 40 12 months previous once you ought to fret! How do you realize he's a 'reliable for no longer something boy'. a minimum of he's going to varsity and attempting to get himself an education in assessment to a pair people who take a seat around all day dwelling off advantages. provide him a great gamble and stop being so judgmental.

yu have just basically described my sister lol!

she is 17 doesnt drink or smoke and is a little heavy, but at school all her friends love her, and tbh she is actually "popular" all her friends drink and smoke and stay out all night but she doesnt go with them cause she feels left out and doesnt want to start drinkin but they dnt no that.

she probably does get invited out all the time but she makes up exuses. ask her, she probly needs some confiedence.

me and my friends are tryin to give my sister some lol, we take her to all are partys and shes starting to come out of her self :D

dont force her to go out cause shel wanna stay in more, or go out an do wot yu want and yul regret it wen yu loose yur little sweet girl and shes replaced with a evil teenager lol

Good luck xxxxxxxxxxxxx

is she doing tings for them at school or giving them lifts to school and back, if so they may be using her for that

i know i used to tell my parents my friends didn't invite me anywhere, and told my mates i want allowed out, truth was my mates were trouble makers and used to go stealing and smoking pot on weekend, causing a lot of trouble.

try to have a talk to her about without making it sound like ur questioning her to much

she sounds like a good person, who stays out of trouble. She needs to find friends that have the same positive attitude as her. Friends who like to have a good time but not do anything stupid.

personally i don't see what is wrong with your daughter she sounds decent. her friends i think do like her so that is why they hang about with her at school but bcus these friends drink and smoke they probally dont hang about with your daughter outside school bcus she doesnt fit in with that crowd. so to sum up they like her so hang about with her in school were you don't have to drink but outside school is the opposite. what your daughter should do is give in to peer pressure or try and make new friends but these arnt her only options. all the best

jsut leave her, she seems to be getting along well in life, as she in 17 she will soon be leaving high school yes?

well after she leaves high school her life will change drastically and she like most people will not talk to any of her high school friends, she will make a whole new group of friends once she goes on to uni, jsut let her be and let her work her life our herself, she seems to be a caring compassionate person, she will work it all out dont worry to much

You could try to get her into a team sport? That way she could meet new kids her age?