Is she thinking she wants me back?

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Long story short, My ex GF broke up with me 4 months ago after being together 2 years. She started dating another guy within a few weeks and had ignored me up until recently. A few weeks ago, she even went to dinner with me and talked about how dating him made her realize how much I really loved her and how most of the "problems" in our relationship were small petty things. A few weeks went by without talking and then she called me late one night and basically complained about him the whole time. Then today, she texts me out of the blue (which hasn't happened since we broke up). Mostly just small talk stuff but she did tell me that she is going to leave her current BF within the week. 

Now she has said a few times that she wants to be friends with me but when we talk about ever getting back together, she says that she doesn't know. Now I have never been friends with an ex and she has only once but it took over a year for them to become friends again. 

One thing that I told her that was if we were to get back together, I wouldn't want to until she is sure of what she wants in life (she is going through school and career changes which is what helped with our breakup). And she agrees that she needs to be single until she gets her life in order. 

I do love her so much and I would do anything for her. And I do badly want her back but I would rather have her as a friend than as nothing at all. So should I be a little hopeful that we'll get back together or not???

♥Katlin♥ · Accepted Answer

At first it sounds like she just needs someone else to talk to or to vent to. She may have done this so much to her other friends they don't want to hear about it anymore. Take it slow right now, and don't push the getting back together thing in her face until she drops some more clues or she brings it up. Good luck!

Just Me · Answer

I think you should wait a bit before trying to be her friend.  I think she's selfish.  She left you for someone else (no one just breaks up and is in another relationship that soon, unless something was already begun)..  She realizes she had it better when she was with you, but hindsight is always 20/20.  She doesn't sound like the kind of girl who can be alone or single.  She is setting up her escape plan - you.  

Tell her maybe some day you can be friends but you don't think it's a good idea right now.

UnknownGuy · Answer

No man, dont let her play with you. If she is in another relationship. Let her have that. Its plenty more fish in the sea. If i were you, i would keep it cool with her, but i might not answer every text or every call. She has a man, and your not him any more. Leave her alone, be smart, there is someone out there probably way prettier and way single. If she really wanted you back, then she would not still be dating the other guy. Move on, let her deal with the decision she made to get another bf.

LOVEXLOVE · Answer

coming from a girls point of veiw.. DONT IGNORE her that to me makes me uninterested and just makes me want to move on to bigger and better things.. so i broke up with my boyfriend about a year ago.. and i just realized i like him.. well not like him i think i like like like like like him. i really miss him and its true you dont know what you got till its gone.. trust me you need to show interest and be supportive.. and act nice around her i think the text message was part of her plan to see how you would react.. maybe text her back after the are for sure broken up and say "i miss you" or somthing... or invite her over for dinner and talk about it. or somthing.

Dg Mviking · Answer

True love has no conditions.A man & woman should first be
friends before anything else. If a relationship developes out
of this,it will last.Be yourself,dont worry what others think.
those who like you will want to be around you.

Anonymous · Answer

I think you both need some time to be single. Or you could find yourself another girl. Maybe it wouldn't work if you got back together ?

spkmyer · Answer

BL13 is right. Though it may be hard show very little interest in romance. Just be her friend, it will slowly make her nutes for you. Don't be mean just let her come to you.

Ash-a-licious · Answer

you need to let her go...obviously she's confused about what she wants and has no problem going for what she thinks she wants...this could obviously backfire on you, as she could tell you she wants you one day and leave you the next...move on to someone who doesn't have these confused thoughts and is willing to start a meaningful and positive relationship with just you....

Anonymous · Answer

Yes show no interest in her that will make her want u more trust me!

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