What is she looking for?

Question

Long story short, My ex GF broke up with me 4 months ago after being together 2 years. She started dating another guy within a month and had ignored me up until recently. A few weeks ago, she even went to dinner with me and talked about how dating him made her realize how much I really loved her and how most of the "problems" in our relationship were small petty things. A few weeks went by without talking and then she called me late one night and basically complained about him the whole time. Then today, she texts me out of the blue (which hasn't happened since we broke up). Mostly just small talk stuff but she did tell me that she is going to leave her current BF within the week. She also sent me a picture she took of herself in our bedroom from back when we were together and followed it with a text saying "i learned alot but would rather go back to that time in place in the pic" WTF is that supposed to mean?

Now she has said a few times that she wants to be friends with me but when we talk about ever getting back together, she says that she doesn't know. Now I have never been friends with an ex and she has only once but it took over a year for them to become friends again. 

One thing that I told her that was if we were to get back together, I wouldn't want to until she is sure of what she wants in life (she is going through school and career changes which is what helped with our breakup). And she agrees that she needs to be single until she gets her life in order. 

I do love her so much and I would do anything for her. And I do badly want her back but I would rather have her as a friend than as nothing at all. So should I be a little hopeful that we'll get back together or not???

cpt_spacecase · Accepted Answer

my advice is to keep her in the friend category and let her get her crap together.do some dating with other women.when she is truly all together she will know what she wants, and if its you then good and if not atleast you have already got a few new numbers in the book and maybe youll find someone as devoted to you as you obviously are devoted to the ex

lfitz64 · Answer

Don't be the rebound...she still cares about you obviously and is scared possibly to leave the new guy and be alone but it sounds like she needs some time alone to learn to stand on her own two feet and get her life together.  Someone once told me "no one will love you until you love yourself completely"  If she is not where she wants to be with her career/school then she is still not happy.  Be there for her as a friend right now and see what happens.  Let her know that you have missed her if you have but that right now you just want things to remain friends and to help her figure out what she wants...

Anonymous · Answer

Sounds like she wants to get back together too..

Really some women just don't know what they have.. I remember my ex told me that I was the best BF she had ever had and regrets losing me. 

I wouldn't bother with her till awhile though. I mean if she wants to hook back up thats fine, but she needs to get her priority straight first.. after all, she broke up with you over petty things.

J F Barrett · Answer

my attention completely evaporated when u said 'long story short" - only to see an essay worth of words.

srry, to painful to read

bottom line is move on - she has.

nao♥ · Answer

Face it, your ex is just crazy!!

only she knows what she wants, so confront her ask her straight up .. What do you want from me???!!!

jebus_16200 · Answer

lmao women dont know what the **** they want but no i doubt theres much hope.

Trending News

What is she looking for?

6 Answers