i'm a military wife & my friends that live around me have husbands cheating all the time?

You should keep your mouth shut and let them find out on their own. Some women don't want to know the truth and when they find out the truth they usually end up being in denial.

My husband cheated on me the first time I was pregnant. He did want to have sex with me for fear of hurting the baby even though my midwife and I assured him it was perfectly fine. During my second pregnancy I told him if he still feared having sex with me then I would be okay with him finding someone else to have sex with. The conditions were that she also be married, and I would have to know when it was happening. He never did it. He travels a lot and is away from us sometimes weeks at a time. So I told him the same thing, minus the marriage requirement. He hasn't done anything. It's easy to keep track of him so I have no worries of there being anything I don't know about now. So I have found that my 'permission' has worked more like reverse psychology.

This is one of the reasons I don't like being an Army wife! Thankfully we have only been in for a little bit and both of us are ridiculously shy... so we kee to ourselves a lot lol.

But on to your question... I don't know why they would be accusing him of stuff. Except they may just be jerks. If he's deployed it's probably hard enough for you worrying about his safety without having to worry about fidelity, too! If I were you, and you trust that your husband is being faithful.. just ignore their crap and realize they are dirtbags anyway- but not all military men are. From now on I'd stay out of your friends discussions about their marriages, whether they bring it up or ask you... play dumb. It's the best way to keep your friends I think.

First off, DON"T assume that their husbands are cheating...unless you saw it or participated in it!! Second, misery LOVES company, so don't let them sprinkle salt on your good thing. Third, avoid these conversations with them!!! and NEVER discuss your husband or what you two do with them...they may start liking YOURS more than YOU do. The one that quit talking to you....YOU deserved that! unless you saw him, or was with him, YOU DON'T KNOW!!! you were just like everyone else, feeding the rumor mill.... if you were wrong... now you're the one spreading lies, and if you were right... you've learned that people do "shoot the messenger". The one with the STD, she may have given it to him, so don't involve yourself, and DON'T have your husband play detective. I've been with my wife now for 19 years and in the military, just like in the civilian world, women throw that stuff at you like frisbees, you just have to remember not to catch any of them. Like I told my wife, I won't put my dipstick in anyone elses oil pan because I'm afraid of contamination... and likewise, if anyone puts their dipstick in my oil pan, i'll never put my dipstick in there again because my oil pan may now be contaminated.

Tell the friend that you are not going to get involved. If she wants to find out what her husband is doing then she needs to either ask him and/or hire a PI. It's juvenile and not fair to ask someone else to spy on another person.

Plus think about your husband. You're compromising his integrity for these whiny women. It's horrible that their husbands are cheating but it's not everyone elses problem to get involved with.

leave them alone. sounds to me that u have a secure marriage and they are jealous. so they are trying to pull u down. if she stopped talking to u for a month that does not sound like a friend to me. move on, associate with women who are similar to u and have a strong marriage. and stop talking to them about there problems.if u are sitting around talking to them about ur husband stop. u never disclose any detail of ur marriage with any one except some one u know that u can trust. and it sounds to me these women u can't. so today end communicating with them u don't need friends who are jealous/envious. so my advice to u LET UR HATERS BE UR MOTIVATORS because that is exactly what they are haters.

Do not give advice unless it is asked for. People do not like to hear the truth when it is unpleasant. You need to be more diplomatic than 'tell it like it is' kind of person. I am not saying that you should lie but be more sensitive to other people's issues.

Stay out of it! STAY OUT OF IT! I got burned this way too. Lost two friends! They act like they want the truth but they really don't.

Do you not want to hear about your husband, so you are putting it on them? Or vice versa? Each of you should mind your own relationship. Sounds like you want to hear yours is the only good one. Nobody here can reassure you about that.

just worry about urself and dont help your friends about their relationship because truth hurts and in the end they will think ur lying and not believe you cus they in denial just worry about ur husband and good luck star only time will tell...if things dont work out email me shortteeeeeelicious