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Classy chick
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Classy chick asked in Society & CultureEtiquette · 1 decade ago

What to do about selfish dinner quests?

I have this 'couple" friends who I entertain a great deal the one half of the couple is a good friend his partner is not. Each and every time I invite them over the partner only comes if Dinner is being served. He never brings anything in and most times will show up right around when dinner is being served. Last night he came right on time and sick, only dinner was still being cooked and proceeded to sit and tell each person that was helping how to cook it. In all the years I have known them I was invited once to there home and the partner was not even there at that time.

It is so bothersome to me how cheap this guy but I have to grin and bear it I know. I want so badly to make a comment about how rude it is that he shows up with NOTHING and never lifts a plate after dinner is over.

please help

Update:

Well I can't not invite him as he is his partner so it is tough, my real problem is not coming out and saying something that will put a strain on me and my friends relationship. I think if I just say that we are doing take out he probably wont come cause that means he would have to spend money. UGH

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  • laurel
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago
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    Tell your friend that you'd like some "alone time" with him when you next invite him to dinner. It will give you a chance to catch up with each other. If the other guy shows up, assign him chores. "Glad you're here. I need you to help with..." He may decide not to come if he has to help. If he refuses to help, his partner will catch on. Be consistent. this will only work if you do it each & every time Mr. Greedy shows up.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I would stop inviting him, or make it clear that he is required to bring SOMETHING to share with everyone else, since you so graciously feed his face.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    you need to talk to your friend about him or don't invite him again. not a lot of options here.

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