Do you ask them for their seat?

I used to have to catch the bus to my mums and was about 8 months pregnant with twins (so huge bump) and was balancing my toddler on my bump and all these 20 year old male students just sat there watching me struggle!

The 2nd time it happened a young school girl gave me her seat and did so everytime she saw me on the bus thereafter!

There are still good considerate people out there but unfortunately they are few and far between it would seem!

I remember when I was on a train going from Leeds to Birmingham, I was standing up, as was this heavily pregnant lady, I'm not an expert but she must have been at least 7/8 months gone.

Anyway, there were a couple of young adults on the train, then the majority was men, so I presume they were commuters - not one offered their seat. What kind of gentlemen live in this country now?!

Back to the story, this lady suddenly said "Has no one noticed I am pregnant and should be sitting down?"

Everyone on the train was shocked she had actually said something, but I believe she was well within her rights.

In the end, a young man gave up his seat whilst everyone else just sat there.

There have also been occasions where I have had a seat and another person hasn't.

Whether I'm in a train or on a bus, I will ALWAYS give my seat up for an elderly person, a pregnant lady or someone with small children - isn't that just basic manners?

But yes, you should say something if it bothers you that people are so arrogant & it would also be perfectly acceptable for you to ask them to give up their seat.

i dont understand how this can happen im ot in london but i was going to suggest that dont ask as soon as you get on the train because that will be like you expect someone to give you the seat..but a few minutes in the journey ask the nearest person when there stop is and if it is a while away say ohh i was hoping to take ur seat' this may give the others and him/her the hint that you may need the seat more than them...

ive done it on a bus but have asked women and they do oblige as either being a mom them selfs but being london they women may be career women and not really mumsie.

good luck but if no one is offering a seat( can believe that as we now live in a society that is rude etc) maybe try catching a later train when there may be a fewer cummuters--seems unfair after a hard days work but your safety should be first.

i always had to catch public transport, and from 12 weeks i was quite on the large side, (bump wise) so there was no missing it! on one occasion it was quite busy and i got knocked over ( i know what you mean when u sed losing your balance) everyone crowded round helping me up and offering their seats to me, and i got really angry thinking, is this what it takes to actually get a seat! but luckly for me the bus i was on was always at the same time so it was always the same people and i always got given a seat after that! my advice is to maybe ask if anyone is due off soon if you feel uncomfertable, if that doesnt work, stand in an awkward place which will make people feel uneasy or even notice you lol good luck and best wishes!!

I also commuted to london, from Hemel Hempstead. I would say, in a polite way, "Does anyone mind if I have their seat?" I wouldnt wait til i was uncomfortable, i would say it as soon as i got on the train.

Not once, EVER did i have less then FIVE people stand up straight away for me. I would say thank you and smile, and take the closest seat, from either a man or a woman. I think most people appriciated my forwardness, and politness.

My feeling is, dont assume everyone is being rude, just ask, put your pride aside and you will be given a seat, and your feet will be grateful!

Hi Ignorant sod's! I'm in the UK and the people today are so ignorant. but did you know that elderly and pregnant woman have Priority over the seats, if you see anyone sitting that looks as though they are Young and able to stand then just say politely would you mind giving up your seat, even just say I'm heavily pregnant and am feeling dizzy

I think you will be surprised the amount of willing people

Good luck

I guess I answer your question with a quesiton. how many people in your situation would take a seat, and if no other seats were available when an elderly person who could barely stand got on the train - would you offer your seat, since technically you still CAN stand? i'm not disagreeing with you, you should be able to sit, However my recommendation to you would be charma. what goes around comes around. Be polite, make small talk with people, offer your seat to someone who needs it worse sometime. People can be rude, just remember how you feel and don't make other people feel that way. your kindness will pay off.

Congrats on the little one!

I know exactly how you feel, as i had to deal with this during all 4 of my pregnancies. At first i would just feel sorry for myself/ dislike the rude people sitting down whilst my ankles started to swell up!!I then went onto subtly holding my back and wincing as if it hurts,looking as fed up as possible (worked a few) in my fourth pregnancy i wasn'tt so bashful and would just ask someone if it was possible i could have their seat.Obviously i would ask the younger people and i never asked any old or infirm as i was pregnant, not ill lol At the end of the day, you dont get if you dont ask and sometimes it simply just doesnt enter someones head to offer their seat,they are not all bad! :-)

TfL can give you a badge that you wear to make it obvious to other commuters (not that you should need it) that you are pregnant and will need their seat, then please, ask away! I would be more than happy to offer my seat and I am often appalled, especially living in london, that people don't. Please askt he toads to move and sit down, but getting one of the badges (the counters at the tube stations should have them) should hopefully make asking easier as you could point to the badge and wouldn't have to point to your bump.

I do really feel for you though, there are really some selfish commuters out there!

Good luck with your pregnancy!

People are so rude today.

I was offered my seat 3 times out of about 100.

I never asked for a seat - I didn't dare. But I would always give my seat up for a pregnant lady.

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