Females who Serve --- how do you feel about this?

I'm active duty USAF and my husband is a civilian

even my mail comes to him sometimes assuming HE is the one in the military

Also, I work on the flight line which is 99% males and their wives all don't trust me just because I'm a female working with a lot of guys

UGH

When I deployed last year the rumors were endless too. I hate the gossip!

it's the officer's wives that give the spouces bad names. they think that they are ALL that just because they married a pilot.

I feel your pain

Oh my God - I hear you. 100%. Thank you for posting this.

I can't tell you how many times I've met my fellow Airmen's wives and they've looked at me funny and started terrible, untrue stories behind my back.

Of course I didn't join to get a man, are you kidding me? Yeah, I'm going to make a 4-year committment because I need a date. Really?!

I just ignore these comments and know that they come from deep-seeded anxiety and low self-esteem. Honestly, those women only say things like that because they don't trust their husbands and/or because they wish they could have the same power and confidence that we have (of course, non-mil women have power and confidence too! - but some spouses sadly lack it). I just take it in stride, knowing that I am the better woman and that I am far braver and stronger than they are. I also know that their opinions don't matter - they're no more than fear-fueled, pathetic, high-school-hallway bits of gossip.

Best wishes.

EDIT - Gerri, you (and all others like you!) are a tribute to Military spouses. Thank you for being not only normal, sane, and supportive, but also intelligent and caring.

I hate it when people say that you join just to find a spouse because youre female. I didn't make a commitment to the military for 6 years just because i want a date or two! thats absolutle madness. I hear the crap all the time, and i don't blame you one second for getting tired of hearing it, its absolutley ridiciouslus. As for the crap, i would just try to ignore it if possible.

Hate that. It pretty much stopped when I confronted one woman after a going away party. I just asked her if she had something to say to me, and she was like what are you talking about. I said something to the effect, I heard what you said and I don't appreciate it. I don't talk about you but I could start if that's what you want. Her husband let me know that he didn't want me talking to his wife and I told him if he couldn't control his wife, other people would do it for him.

Things were a little tense between him and me, (I figured he was the source-everything she knew about me came from him) but it eventually blew over and I didn't have anymore problems at that base.

Its wierd, like my hubby is Army but infantry so doesnt work with other female soldiers alot. But I only hear bad things about woman soldiers from the men soldiers like there this they do this there always in the barracks, they just want one thing blah blah blah. I have never heard that stuff from army wives but Im not in that postion BC obviously hubby is infantry. But I do think its messed up becaue your married your not a single soldier you dont deserve to be accused like that. plus your busting your *** to protect those bitches so screw them. My bad BC i dont serve had to comment though

Im stationed in Okinawa Japan and I am a Hospital Corpsman. I work with 1400 men alone on my base. half married, half single.

Blame it on my parents, but I am a beautiful, single, 22 year old woman and the dependant wives have a fit when they see me on base in uniform.

The excuse that I give them is that we are stranded on an island that is 63 miles long and they have nothing to do but hate on me. But you have to remember that our haters are our biggest fans. So you keep on being the fabulous, marvelous, INDEPENDENT, headstrong, woman that you are, Keep on fighting for their security and peace of mind, and let them drive themselves crazy over nonsense. Keep your head up and stay positive

Thank you for all that you do.

Not a woman, and haven't served, but this just shows that feminism is still necessary. You've still got a long way to go. The answer is to do just what you're doing now - your job. Good luck and don't give in.

I myself am in Air Force DEP right now, but I've had tons of people ask me why I'm joining the military when I'm "just a girl". I even had a guy ask me if I was joining just to go out with military men! Please!!! Last I checked, the military was not a dating service!

awww..im sorry to hear that! my husband is in the coast guard and i get along great with the women...but i know the army is a much bigger branch so maybe there is a little more drama...i wish women would just get over themselves and learn to get along lol ya know?! i hope things get better..maybe they are just jealous cause you are prettier than them lol who knows? just ignore the ignorance!

and i wanted to add, cudos for you for doing what you do! cause i know i wouldnt be able to do it!!