How to treat a woman.....?

It is important for men to remember that, as women grow older, it becomes

harder for them to maintain the same quality of housekeeping as when they

were younger. When you notice this, try not to yell at them. Some are

oversensitive, and there's nothing worse than an oversensitive woman.

My name is Stewart. Let me relate how I handled the situation with my

wife,Debbie. When I took 'early retirement' last year, it became necessary

for Debbie to get a full-time job along with her part-time job, both for extra

income and for the health benefits that we needed.

Shortly after she started working, I noticed she was beginning

to show her age. I usually get home from the golf course about the same

time she gets home from work.

Although she knows how hungry I am, she almost always

says she has to rest for half an hour or so before she starts dinner. I

don't yell at her. Instead, I tell her to take her time and just wake me when

she gets dinner on the table. I generally have lunch in the Men's Grill

at the club so eating out is not reasonable. I'm ready for some home cooked

grub when I hit that door.

She used to do the dishes as soon as we finished

eating. But now it's not unusual for them to sit on the table for

several hours after dinner.I do what I can by diplomatically reminding her

several times each evening that they won't clean themselves. I know she

really appreciates this, as it does seem to motivate her to get them

done before she goes to bed.

Another symptom of aging is complaining, I think. For example she will say

that it is difficult for her to find time to pay the monthly bills during her lunch

hour. But, boys, we take 'em for better or worse, so I just smile and offer

encouragement. I tell her to stretch it out over two or even three days. That

way she won't have to rush so much. I also remind her that missing lunch

completely now and then wouldn't hurt her any (if you know what I mean). I

like to think tact is one of my strong points.

When doing simple jobs, she seems to think she needs more rest

periods. She had to take a break when she was only half finished mowing

the yard. I try not to make a scene. I'm a fair man. I tell her to fix

herself a nice, big, cold glass of freshly squeezed lemonade and just

sit for a while. And, as long as she is making one for herself, she may as

well make one for me too.

I know that I probably look like a saint in the way I support Debbie.

I'm not saying that showing this much consideration is easy. Many men will

find it difficult. Some will find it impossible! Nobody knows better than I do

how frustrating women get as they get older. However, guys, even if you just

use a little more tact and less criticism of your aging wife because of this

article, I will consider that writing it was well worthwhile.

After all, we are put on this earth to help each other.....

Signed,

Stewart

EDITOR'S NOTE:

Stewart died suddenly on March 27th. The police report says that he was found with a Calloway extra long 50-inch Big Bertha Driver II golf club rammed up his posterior , with only 2 inches of grip showing. His wife Debbie wasarrested and charged with murder; however, the all-woman jury found her Not Guilty, accepting her defense that he accidentally sat down on it