Can you remove someone from your bridal party? And is it okay to have an uneven number in the bridal party?

It's your day! You shouldn't have to stress about it, and she shouldn't be causing you stress. You have every right to remove her, just don't be rude about it, which I'm sure you won't be.

As for it being uneven, that's up to you also. You can do whatever you want and feel better about. If you have a wedding planner, get with them and get creative as to how to make it look nice and not unplanned/unorganized. For example, for the entrance, instead of paired up they can enter females, then males individually or vice versa. or maybe female, male, female, male, etc. i've also seen it done where one guy escorts two women.

If she's unresponsive, I'd take that as a huge sign that she's not interested in being in your wedding anymore. Maybe she's worried about money? I think it'd be best to tell her that you've decided to remove her from your bridal party since she's not living up to her responsibilities & she's changing phone numbers w/o contacting you.

If you end up with uneven numbers of people in your bridal party, that's okay. I had 2 more bridesmaids than groomsmen and it was no big deal.

Good luck & happy planning!

Hi Cali

1. I think it is pretty safe to assume that it is ok to remove her from the party - she hasn't returned any of your phone calls, apart from her email, you have no way to contact her and she hasn't been participating fully in the wedding plans - thus not fullfilling her role as bridesmaid.

2. Yes it is ok to have an odd number of bridesmaides to groomsmen (my brother did that) but if she hasn't been a part of the wedding - do you really want her to be involved if she only jumps on board at the last minute? She should either be committed from the beginning and be a full bridemaide or not committed and loose her spot outright.

It is your wedding, so you can do what you want.

As for the uneven number, I don't think that is a big deal, and have seen that at a lot of weddings.

Is she mad at you for a specific reason, or just ignoring you. I have a hard time telling you to cut her out of your wedding completely. I know a wedding is important, but so are friendships, and you don't want to ruin one over dress shopping! Good luck though, it sounds like an awkward situation!

Dealing with her is just an added stress you don't need. If you don't get an email back, send her one saying that you'll take that to mean she's not involved anymore, and that you're sorry it didn't work out. If she does want back in, and you let her, an uneven number isn't a huge deal, and if it really bothers you I'm sure your fiance can scrounge up one other guy (a cousin or something etc.).

I normally wouldn't say that it is okay to remove someone after asking them, but in your case, it seems as if she has already removed herself. Just send that last email saying something like, I have been trying to get ahold of you, we need to do some dress shopping, it is becoming very stressful for me, etc etc. and then tell her you are assuming she is not going to be in the wedding party if she does not contact you back.

Also, its perfectly fine to have uneven numbers, my wedding is going to have uneven numbers as one of my fiance's so called "friends" or should i say ex friend called me a b***h and has been doing some very evil things to me, so needless to say, he is no longer in our wedding. Good luck.

G'day! I would also agree, it's YOUR day

As such, what YOU and your hubby to be thinks matters

This person by their behaviour does not want to have the committment of being a bridesmaid.

Why not put the matter to rest once and for all as she is obviously not someone you would not choose to be one of your bridesmaids. It is an honor and a privilege to be asked.

Would forget all about her and no I wouldn't worry at all re the odd number re the bridal party

Enjoy, don't stress (it IS as easy as you want to make it )

Keep things in perspective, it is only ONE day...the beginning of the rest of your married life

Good Luck

I think you should remove her from your wedding. should not worry about her i mean she made the choice of not being involved in your wedding plans plus it was rude that she did not response to your calls and emails it shows that she is not interested in your wedding plan. don't worry have fun its your wedding and congratz.

Hey think about it. If u were asked to be in a bridal party u would be so exicited. thats mean to think bout it.

Best of luck telling her

...Steph