Worried bf will propose at airport right after getting home from army...?

Get into a conversation about marriage with him and be very careful but very obviously pushing the idea of any kind of proposal is a bad idea. And make ABSOLUTELY SURE he knows you will not get married until your ready. And subtly give him the idea that proposing is a bad idea. Make sure he knows you do not want to get married.

Unfortunately your in a bad spot, but luckily you have an amazingly sound head on your shoulders so Im sure youll pull through.

Oh and if he still does it, He doesnt sound like a very smart guy unfortunately, and doesnt give a crap about your feelings. And for some reason has to own you to be comfortalble. That is if he still does it after you tell him your not ready to get married.

In the phone calls prior to his coming home, make it clear to him that you are not ready to be married and won't even consider it. If meeting him at the airport will cause you problems with your tests, then tell him that there is no way that you can meet him. Don't be wishy-washy about it, tell him directly. He will probably ask you if your education is more important than him, so have an accurate answer to this question. If the answer is yes, then say so. Don't lead him on and give him false hopes if that is truly how you feel. At your age, it's ok to put your education before marriage. You have stated many times in this posting that you are not ready for marriage. You need to make that clear to him. Don't let him push you into something your not ready for. Encourage him to attend the same school or a school near by you. He will need an education to get a good job as well.

I think you should be more supportive of his homecoming. YES school is VERY IMPORTANT, but if you plan on marrying this guy, shouldn't he be important too? Maybe you should meet him at the airport, and if he does propose, talk to him. Just because you get engaged doesn't mean you have to get married right away. People have long engagements all the time. Just explain to him that you want to have more of your schooling out of the way before you start planning your happy lives together. Assure him that you aren't leaving him, and that you do want to get married, but that it just isn't time yet.

Your question is a difficult one to answer. I can feel your frustration. You have a good ideal about hinting to him before the airport arrival about your not ready for marriage right now. Maybe that would be one way and the best. If he ask you anyway at the airport, (that is if you get to go) just tell him you want to talk to him about it and don't say yes or not. Or perhaps you could say yes to a later date. I am at a loss on this!

tell him you dont want to get married yet BEFORE he gets back. you cant win in this situation. so pissing him off over the phone will at least allow him to keep his pride intact. being in boot camp makes people do some crazy things mainly because it really is such a shock to your life style. but i can understand where hes coming from. there is a problem in maintaining relationships while in the military. i see those problems more often than i want to. getting married this early would be a bad thing, because yall still haven't found out what the relationship is going to be like with perpetual distance.

1. He's being pretty manipulative with the whole airport, I won't leave until you pick me up, thing. Consider 20 years of that.

2. If he proposes, you can give him the "yes" he wants (and that you seem to want, eventually, too), but say, "Yes, as soon as I'm done with school," or better, "Yes, as soon as you're out of the army."

Being married to a service member is hell in the best of conditions. Being married to a service member while you're going to school and he's away will be...well...difficult.

Well, you have two questions here really.

Firstly, I'd talk to your professors and see if you might take the exam earlier that day. Unless you've got a really rabidly liberal anti-war type professor, I'd think they'd understand that your boyfriend just got done serving his country by risking his life, and wants to see the person he loves most in life. I understand you not wanting to miss your test.

Your bigger problem is that you and he are in different points in your life. The military grows people up really fast. When you're risking your life day after day, it puts more urgency into living your life now. Hopefully you can work it out somehow.

You know what - since you both love each other and want to be together, and if he does ask. Just say yes, and stay engaged for as long as you need to study. That way there is a commitment but at the same time you arent married yet!

And no awkward airport scenes! that would be heartbreaking, dont do it.

I would say that you need to make sure your views on marriage are very obvious. If he does do it in the airport, I would say that if you are really worried about embarrassing him at the airport, say yes and then later tell him that you just can't and tell him your reasons.

Maybe you can drop in somehow that you don't like marriage proposals to be public? So if he does ask it will be a private thing you saying no.