Wallflower

My boyfriend and I broke up about a week ago. We'd been dating for about a year and a half. It's been coming for a while, so I'm not hugely broken up about it, but I do feel lonely and don't want to jump into a relationship or any kind of dating too soon. How long - minimum - before you guys think it is appropriate to start dating again. And please don't say I'll know when the time is right. I'm kind of an impulsive person, so I do better if I set a minimum required time before I allow myself to date to keep myself out of trouble.

My friend is getting married in a few weeks, and she asked me to be a bridesmaid. I'm bringing another friend of mine as my date, and neither of us know what the appropriate dress code is.

It's an outdoor, summer wedding so it is going to be hot, if that makes a difference. It will be a somewhat relaxed wedding as far as I know.

What should my date wear that is appropriate but as comfortable as possible?

I don't drink, I don't necessarily think it's wrong, I just don't like the taste, but I don't like it when my bf gets drunk. He's not a bad drunk, I just find it kind of annoying. I was wondering if this is common, for the sober one to be bothered by the drunk one, or if I'm just intolerant.

I'm 19, I'm in college. I like the look of belly button rings, but never even tried to get one because my folks would flip. Now I have a bit more freedom so I'd like to hear what you think?

when is the best time to get one? how long does it take to heal? what are some problems you've had? How easy is it to keep it clean while it's healing? did you regret getting it afterward?

and please don't tell me they look trashy or whatever. I haven't completely made up my mind to get one anyway.

I guess just give a percentage. what percent of girls can make it to marriage without sex, and what percent of boys can make it to marriage without sex?

especially if nothing else is off limits when in a relationship. how hard is it to make it to marriage without losing virginity if they get physically intimate in ways other than sex?

i was wondering how many times a day or a week the average guy masturbates. my bf says a lot of guys do it or try to do it a few times a week to even a few times a day. I didn't think it was that much.

i was also wondering how common it is for a guy to look a porn. is it something that most guys do? or do only a few do it. or do most guys do it but not very often?

A chemist needs a pH 3.5 buffer. should she use NaOH with formic acid (Ka = 1.8x10^-4) or with acetic acid (Ka = 1.8x10^-5)? Why? What is the disadvantage of choosing the other acid? What is the role of the NaOH?

I live in Oklahoma, I'm going up to Grand Rapids Michigan over spring break to visit my boyfriend who recently had to move there. He wants a good bar and I want a good place to dance. I guess it's a club? I've never been to one. Does anybody know of any good ones? Good music, easy to get into, relatively cheap?

Please don't be rude with this. Anyway, boyfriend of a year has his birthday on Feb 17. I've already mailed a Valentine's Day card, so sending a plane jane birthday card seems kind of unimaginative. I'm a poor college student, so things that can be made myself or that can be bought cheaply is a must, and i have to be able to mail it in a regular envelope, so telling me to mail him a model car that weighs two pounds is not an option. any ideas are greatly appreciated.

Just love or does it take more than love to make a marriage work?

K i just asked this but I'm hoping for a few more answers...

Basic info:

I'm 19, a freshman in college and i'm looking at 8 solid years of college cause i'm shooting for vet school. My boyfriend is 20, has been gone for 2 months, but will be out of the army for good on tuesday because of a medical discharge. We've been dating since February with a brief break in between. We both have talked about marriage, and so far we're looking forward to getting married someday.

The Story:

Okay, he's been gone two months with the army and it's been really hard on him. The only major thing we disagree on is WHEN to get married. I'm barely in college and feel that I have some maturing to do. Not to mention, 8 years of school is a long time and vet school is almost as bad as med school as far as having no life except studying. I really think that it is best to wait a few years before even getting engaged. He, on the other hand, wants to tie the knot as soon as possible. I can understand where he's coming from. Right now he's feeling a lot of pressure. He has many many friends who are either already married or at least engaged. Now that he's at boot camp, he's surrounded by a bunch of guys who 1) are married/engaged or 2) lost their girlfriend either to college or them leaving for the military. I know it's just the situation because we've talked about it and been able to more or less compromise, but his situation has changed him a little, kind of freaked him out. So, from what he's seeing, marriage is the best way to keep me. We are both trying to compromise, and were able to more or less, but here recently he's been really pushing to get married sooner and sooner.

The Problem:

He gets home on Tuesday. I've talked to him a few times and he really really wants me to be at the airport - totally understandable. I have 3 major tests next week. Monday, Wednesday, Friday. I NEED to study. To keep my scholarship and to keep my chances of being accepted into vet school i have to maintain my grades. Up until now he's been really supportive of my schooling, not having any problem with the amount of time I have to put in studying. But now he's telling me that he won't leave the airport until I'm there. So, if I can't go on Tuesday, he'll wait until the weekend and just camp out. Totally unreasonable. Don't get me wrong, I'd practically kill to be there, I love him and I miss him and I can't wait to see him. But he'll always be there, I only have one shot at these tests. Anyway, between some of the things he's said, I've suddenly had the revelation that there is the possibility that he will propose to me as soon as he's off the plane. Rash I know, but he can be sometimes, and the army has put him under a lot of stress and it will take him a while to calm down once he's back. Not to mention, he's a hopeless romantic and he'd love it, he gets home only to marry his girl and live happily ever after. I know that's how he sees it. I'm sorry, as much as I love him, I'm not ready to get married or even be engaged so if he does ask, I will say no, and hope that it won't crush him so bad that he won't ask again later when i've had time to grow up. I think that's why he's being unreasonable about the airport.

The question:

I'll be able to talk to him a few times on the phone before he gets on the plane. Do I make a comment, either directly or just kind of get on the subject and make my thoughts on the matter known? But if he has no intention of proposing and I'm worrying for no reason, that will make things really awkward and might upset him for no reason. But if he is planning on it and I don't say anything and am able to go to the airport, and he proposes... I don't want to crush him in public, and i'm not going to say yes only to avoid a scene and then tell him the truth later. I do plan on marrying him. SOMEDAY. Not now. I know it's stressful being engaged, and many people that get married don't finish all of the schooling they originally planned. I want to get my life in order first. What is the best way to avoid what could be a nasty situation or nip it in the bud? And I hate the 'if he really loves you then he'll wait.' I know he can wait, but I think he's been under so much stress that he's not thinking as rationally as he normally would be. So as long as i can stop it before it happens it will be fine, but just home at the airport he'll stil have star dazzled lovey dovey eyes, lol.

Basic info:

I'm 19, a freshman in college and i'm looking at 8 solid years of college cause i'm shooting for vet school. My boyfriend is 20, has been gone for 2 months, but will be out of the army for good on tuesday because of a medical discharge. We've been dating since February with a brief break in between. We both have talked about marriage, and so far we're looking forward to getting married someday.

The Story:

Okay, he's been gone two months with the army and it's been really hard on him. The only major thing we disagree on is WHEN to get married. I'm barely in college and feel that I have some maturing to do. Not to mention, 8 years of school is a long time and vet school is almost as bad as med school as far as having no life except studying. I really think that it is best to wait a few years before even getting engaged. He, on the other hand, wants to tie the knot as soon as possible. I can understand where he's coming from. Right now he's feeling a lot of pressure. He has many many friends who are either already married or at least engaged. Now that he's at boot camp, he's surrounded by a bunch of guys who 1) are married/engaged or 2) lost their girlfriend either to college or them leaving for the military. So, from what he's seeing, marriage is the best way to keep me. We are both trying to compromise, but here recently he's been really pushing to get married sooner and sooner.

The Problem:

He gets home on Tuesday. I've talked to him a few times and he really really wants me to be at the airport - totally understandable. I have 3 major tests next week. Monday, Wednesday, Friday. I NEED to study. To keep my scholarship and to keep my chances of being accepted into vet school i have to maintain my grades. Up until now he's been really supportive of my schooling, not having any problem with the amount of time I have to put in studying. But now he's telling me that he won't leave the airport until I'm there. So, if I can't go on Tuesday, he'll wait until the weekend and just camp out. Totally unreasonable. Don't get me wrong, I'd practically kill to be there, I love him and I miss him and I can't wait to see him. But he'll always be there, I only have one shot at these tests. Anyway, between some of the things he's said, I've suddenly had the revelation that there is the possibility that he will propose to me as soon as he's off the plane. Rash I know, but he can be sometimes, and the army has put him under a lot of stress and it will take him a while to calm down once he's back. Not to mention, he's a hopeless romantic and he'd love it, he gets home only to marry his girl and live happily ever after. I know that's how he sees it. I'm sorry, as much as I love him, I'm not ready to get married or even be engaged so if he does ask, I will say no, and hope that it won't crush him so bad that he won't ask again later when i've had time to grow up. I think that's why he's being unreasonable about the airport.

The question:

I'll be able to talk to him a few times on the phone before he gets on the plane. Do I make a comment, either directly or just kind of get on the subject and make my thoughts on the matter known? But if he has no intention of proposing and I'm worrying for no reason, that will make things really awkward and might upset him for no reason. But if he is planning on it and I don't say anything and am able to go to the airport, and he proposes... I don't want to crush him in public, and i'm not going to say yes only to avoid a scene and then tell him the truth later. I do plan on marrying him. SOMEDAY. Not now. I know it's stressful being engaged, and many people that get married don't finish all of the schooling they originally planned. I want to get my life in order first. What is the best way to avoid what could be a nasty situation or nip it in the bud?

Basic Info:

I'm 19, freshman in college, looking at 8 years total for vet school. he's 20 and is getting back from basic training on tuesday. we've been dating since february with a brief break in the middle.

Story:

He's been gone for two months now, he gets back on Tuesday. Unfortunately I have 3 huge tests next week, and school is very important to me so I'm worried that to get good grades i'll have to miss going to the airport to pick him up. I told him this - don't get me wrong i really really really really want to go - and of course he got upset. But he's saying he'll just camp out in the airport and refuses to come home unless i'm there when he gets off the plane. He's making a million excuses and is being downright unreasonable. I'd be able to see him the following weekend, and even if I can go to the airport i'll only be there for half the ride home cause i'm in college and he's going back to our hometown.

I wouldn't worry about him proposing except that one point we disagree on is when to get married. I'm really pushing to wait until i have more of my schooling done, and he's really pushing to tie the knot as soon as possible. He also has many friends already married or getting married, and he's currently surrounded by a bunch of guys who 1) are married, 2) are getting married or 3) lost their gf because of college or them leaving for military. Essentially, he's afraid he's losing me. Ultimately he's not, I'm always here for him, but I'm really worried that he's taken the idea that proposing as soon as he gets home will be so romantic and we'll live happily ever after. If he proposes in the airport, I have to say no. I refuse to be engaged this early. I love him to death, but i have to get my life in order first.

question:

I'll be able to talk to him on the phone a few times before he gets on he plane. What do i do? Do i make a comment now that if he asks i'm going to say no? or am i overreacting and saying anything will make things awkward? but if this is his plan and i dont nip it in the bud then it will totally crush him in a very public and awkward setting for me to say no. I want to marry him someday, just not NOW. What do i do to not break his heart and not make things awkward?

Show that U and V have the same direction if UxV= /U/ x /V/

for the record, this is one of only a few homework problems of a whole assignment that i couldn't figure out, and no i did not put it off until the last minute...

When 35.6L of ammonia and 40.5L of oxygen gas at STP burn, nitrogen monoxide and water form. After the products return to STP, how many grams of nitrogen monoxide are present?

unbalanced: NH3(g) + O2(g) => NO(g) + H2O(l)

balanced: 4NH3 + 5O2 => 4NO + 6H2O

if you could please explain it and not just give an answer that would be great!

for the record i did not put this off. this is one of the 3 questions on the whole 30 question assignment that i couldn't figure out...

anyway...

A sample of a liquid hydrocarbon known to consist of molecules with five carbon atoms is vaporized in a 0.204 - L flask by immersion in a water bath at 101 C. the barometric pressure is 767 torr, nd the remaining gas weighs 0.482g. What is the molecular formula of the hydrocarbon?

the answer in the back of the book is: C5H12

can you please explain to me how to get that answer?

use half-angle identities to find the exact value of tan 15 degrees

and for the record this assignment isn't due until friday.

we started dating last february. things went great for about two months. then he starts acting weird. before i can go any further i have to explain some things about myself. i am very much a goody goody and physical contact makes me very uncomfortable and it takes me a long time to trust someone to the point that allow or enjoy so much as holding hands. yes i know, i'm weird. anyway, he knew this and would always say it's fine it's fine i won't push you, i know how to wait for a kiss. anyway, a couple months in i'm getting better about the contact thing with hugs and kisses and so on, slowly but surely, but he starts acting weird. i know it's the signs of a break up but i was very unfamiliar with what to do about it and every time i mentioned if something was wrong or was i doing something wrong or what did he want me to do to make him happy he said nothing was wrong, don't worry. there was nothing i could do about it so i let it go but paid attention to the signals he was putting off that things weren't right between us. anyways, before we'd hooked up he'd promised a girl from out of town that he'd go to her prom with her. I was mildly uneasy about it but i told him i didn't care, he should go and have fun with his friends. long story short, the day after that prom he calls me and then has his sister break up with me over the phone... i know, mature right? anyway, i went to his house to see what was up cause i was kind of blindsided with it cause he gave no warning when he called that something was up. we talk, he says he only wants it to be a break until school's out so he can focus on homework. same old excuse, i have too much homework to have a gf right now. anyway, load of poo because i'm one of the top ten in the class of 300 and if anyone understands the need to do homework or could possibly help on homework it would be me. k, so, i'm heartbroken and really pissed at how he handled the whole thing. a few weeks go by and he starts talking to me at lunch, talking to me in the hall, talking to me on msn. i'd already told him it probably wasn't gonna be a let's get back together this summer because he'd hurt me too bad but there he was every day talking to me. i didn't even have to talk back, he'd just sit next to me and talk or try to make jokes. summer rolls around, i tell him flat out that i didn't need him and we should both move on and i think that cut him pretty deep but i wasn't harsh in the way i said i was only honest, cut to the chase. we don't speak to eachother at all for about a month and then out of the blue he calls me up in the middle of june asking if i wanted to come over and watch a movie. as friends... well, by that point i wasn't mad at him and purely because i was bored i said yeah why not. long story short again i'm hanging out at his house pretty much every day for the next month. i viewed him as my best friend but i knew that he wanted to hook back up again. by mid july i finally agreed to give it a try and here i am at the end of september with me at college and my bf at boot camp in georgia. anyway, the point that i've taken so long to get to is that two weeks before he left for boot camp he tells me he's got a confession to make that he has to tell me before he leaves for boot camp. he says that when he went to that prom with his friend he ended up getting totally wasted and basically screwed her all night long. he then told his sister who told the parents who then told him he had to break up with me and figure out if he wanted me or if he wanted free sex cause he sure as hell wasn't getting any from me. what is a girl supposed to say to that? ultimately, i've just buried it and pretended like it never happened and he's sworn to never drink again and never cheat again and never be in a position to cheat again. like i said, i pretended it never happened and we went on with out happy togetherness. but now he's in boot camp and it seems like i'm constantly dwelling on what he did how he treated me and wondering why the hell i'm with him. does he make me happy? yes, very much. but how much of that is reals? does he actually care about me. he trusts me, he gave me the only thing he has from his deceased mother to keep until he's out of boot camp, and i have every valuable possession he has in my possession until he's out but does he actually love me like he claims he does? is he worth giving a chance? what would you do if you were in my situation. and remember, aside from that night, he's never done anything negative toward me and he does make me happy. but how can i really trust him?

she's a 9 yr old GSD. she is currently having authority issues. she used to respond to "no" and/or any other kind of "punishment"

she is an outdoor dog, and usually sleeps right by the back door. the problem is that she has suddenly gotten to where she jumps and scratches at the door. she has shredded the screen door, and i'm afraid that she will tear the wooden trim around the door completely off. if i open the door at all she tries very hard to get inside. saying 'no' doesn't have any affect whatsoever. throwing her back doesn't do anything. i block the door with the patio furniture and she'll drag it away so she can scratch at the door some more. she'll practically push me over trying to get in. i've learned that twisting the ear shows that i am dominant and even though she'll whine when i do it, as soon as i let go she's back at the door again clawing at it. on top of that, she has taken to pooping in that spot right by the door where she usually sleeps.

“Stream of Thought”

I think, therefore I am.

Without thought I do not exist.

Neither do you. Nor them.

There is naught but a constant,

Collective stream of thought

That brings all into being. Connects it.

What complex thinkers we are.

We created this world, this universe;

Put it into motion, all just by thinking it.

And then we created God.

Ironic how we made our own Maker.

If there is no one in a forest to hear a tree fall?

Is it the same?

No, of course not.

We made God to make us

So that it would not be the same.

All is different. Unique. And yet monotonous.

For it is only a stream of thought.