I'm worried my bf will propose as soon as he gets out of the army...?

First of all, don't let him threaten you to get what he wants. It's completely understandable that he wants to see you, but if you can't be there you can't be there and he'll have to accept that. Camping out in an airport is pretty immature, not going to lie.

Secondly, if you want this relationship to work you NEED to find a compromise. Since you do plan on marrying him in the future, just not for a while, what if he gets you a promise ring? Basically it means "someday." You won't exactly be engaged, but it can still be the next step toward that. Mention this to him on the phone before you see him, it'll be a gentle reminder that you don't want to get engaged but that you do love him and still want to be with him.

In the phone calls prior to his coming home, make it clear to him that you are not ready to be married and won't even consider it. If meeting him at the airport will cause you problems with your tests, then tell him that there is no way that you can meet him. Don't be wishy-washy about it, tell him directly. He will probably ask you if your education is more important than him, so have an accurate answer to this question. If the answer is yes, then say so. Don't lead him on and give him false hopes if that is truly how you feel.

At your age, it's ok to put your education before marriage. You have stated many times in this posting that you are not ready for marriage. You need to make that clear to him. Don't let him push you into something your not ready for.

Encourage him to attend the same school or a school near by you. He will need an education to get a good job as well.

As soon as you get out of the Airport someplace where you 2 can talk without any interruptions,just be honest with him & tell him how you feel ,and your concerns about about why you think that he may be getting ready to propose to you,because of what he's been saying.& if he Truly loves you he will respect your feelings too & agree to wait.I totally agree with you, You guys are both so young & have a lot to yet experience & you can have a wonderful, loving relationship without the added strains of marriage,on the other hand if it's that important to him you could consider a very long engagement,It could help him to feel a little more secure.

Good luck

You've got a good head on your shoulders and you are to be commended for not wanting to rush into something you might not be ready for! You're only 19 and 20 yrs of age.....that's still pretty young considering how much older most people are these days when they get married.

I think with what you've got on your plate for the next several years, you really need to slow this down a bit. Your boyfriend's desire to get married and live happily ever after is a lovely thought but that won't happen just because you get married in a hurry.........in fact, the exact opposite will happen. Not only is your schooling going to take a lot of your time and energy, but you're looking at a huge expense for school fees and getting married isn't cheap!

I don't really understand what his rush is but I really think he's not thinking straight and it's a good thing one of you is or there could really be some major problems in your future.

I think you really need to stand your ground on this and tell him if he really loves you and wants to be with you that he's going to have to wait until you're older and more settled. Don't be surprised if he gives you an ultimatum, but even if he does, please don't cave in to this! If your schooling gets screwed up, you're going to end up very bitter....and if he has a lot of friends who are already married, you can bet the next thing he'll want is for you to get pregnant!

If you deduct his time away from the length of time you've been dating, you really don't have that much time together under your belt to have even establish a good, firm, solid relationship on which to base this marriage.

From everything you've said, you are sooo wise for your years and he is soooo young for his years! Holding your ground on this may end up costing you your relationship with him but look at it this way.......someone as bright and intelligent as you will surely find another man to marry at some stage when you feel ready......you might not have another chance to become a Vet!

Every one of us has an inner voice that speaks to us when something doesn't feel right. That voice is there to guide us and protect us from making wrong decisions. It sounds like your inner voice is screaming at you! Listen to it! It's your friend! It will never lead you down the wrong path!

WOW hunny you have alot on your plate. Kudos on the vet school, I am going to do that too. The best way that I can answer your question is to tell you to be honest with him. Tell him exactly what youve written in here. Let him know that you arent going anywhere,and that you do want to get married but you want your carreer first. Try to put his mind at ease as much as possible with out saying yes. If he truely loves you he will understand and support your desision

they only thing read was the first line.....IM 19......listen...it doesn't matter how you guys feel about each other....your way too young to get married an im sure im not the only one telling you this....anyone that tells you that ...oh...if you guys are in love that go for it....is a complete moron!!...Listen.....you have a good job to support yourself????.....what happens if you get pregnant...are you old enough to support a child....financially or mentally.....if he loves you, an you love him....an its ment to be....you will feel this way in 3yrs when you get older.....you dont need to avoid the situation when or if he asks.....just tell him..ARE YOU NUT....WERE BARELY OUT OF OUR TEENS!!!......tell him you love him...only if you do...an that if he loves you...he will wait....do not ever...an i say ever do anything or say anything to make other people happy..you do whats best for you....its a tough world an for you young woman...you need to become strong an independent......divorce rate 60 plus%....so wait!!!!...good luck

I understand about your problem and his but I feel the same way as some other people I think if you tell him ahead of time because it would suck to be told no when he asks you.

Let him know ahead of time.. A good thing to do is to send him this e-mail..You've stated your case so clearly I think he'll understand.. Good luck

If he was really in love with you...explain tht to him and he would understand