My gf calls me cry baby and says I don't love myself. How should i handle this in small steps?

She says that I'm very immature and that I need help. I go to psychological therapy, but I also want to help myself along the way.

Here are some of her (and my godparent's, best friends (if i have any left), and associate's issues with me):

- Talk too much

- Talk too little

- Don't say enough at the right time

- Say too much at the wrong time

- Tell too many people's business

- Cry too much

- Too many excuses

- Refer to my bad childhood to cover for problems

- Flip out over small problems

- Bad concentration

- Bad memory

- Don't have a mind of my own

- Cry about stuff that I need to handle as a man

- Rely on other people to make my decisions for me

- Use people too much

- Don't love myself

- Tell too much of my own business in the wrong setting (around unknown people, work, school, etc)

- Don't appreciate people I need to like people who do stuff for me

- Stress out on too many things

- Take on too many things at the same time

- A bunch of other stuff

Should I do one or more of the following:

- Keep going to therapy

- "Resign" from being my girl's boyfriend

- Stop being social for a while and re-cooperate

- Something else I you think I should do...

Please help... there are many times I have homicidal/suicidal thoughts (for a black guy from the hood)...so any help would be appreciated

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