being drunk every week is a problem.?

he has to do it on his own there is nothing you can do he has to want to stop all the rehabs and classes wont help unless he wants to stop

Ask him to make a 2-beer limit each day. No liquor. No more than 2 beers. This is fair.

I am 40 and I drink 2 beers about 6 days a week. When I was younger I used to drink 4 or 5 every day, plus shots of liquor, for years. My wife was patient with me and I've done much better. We have two kids and I have a great job. Some people might say I'm a functional alcoholic, but seriously I'm in very good health and rarely get drunk anymore.

ps, there were 2 keys to my improvement: 1. my wife being patient and keeping things in order. and 2. giving up hard liquor completely. it's the hard liquor that causes all the problems.

The ONLY thing that can stop the drinking is treatment, preferably AA, and you need to go to Al Anon meetings so you can understand more about dealing with an alcoholic. My brother is over 20 years AA and has been dry all that time, he started out going to meetings very night for several years and now still goes a few times a week. There is NO WAY to deal with this on your own and just stopping drinking does not mean a cure, it's just a temporary state of affairs

He will not change until he is in jail or dead. Sorry but it is true. Lost a friend in 2006. He had multiple tickets and DUI's. Never stopped until the day he died at the age of 33. His death sobered up a lot of his buddies. Many take cabs now or have an arranged driver. Pennies on the dollar and small inconvenience to being dead or spending time in jail.

From now on, you drop him off and pick him up. You take away his keys and do not tell him where the hiding place is.

Our family is alcohol free. Maybe severe for most people, but I have 3 children and I believe that abstinence of mind altering drug is a good example to set. -- and yes we do not even drink coffee. (In this economy how can anyone even afford to go to Starbucks every morning?)

-- what aspect of his life is he trying to escape from? Is being sober so frightening that every weekend he has to be in a drunken stupor? From my point of view he needs AA.

Just leave him for a little while. Go stay with a friend & tell him that you mean it that he changes. Maybe seeing you stay with a friend might turn over a new leaf for him.

Drinking is horrible, especially if you have children.

Give him an ultimatum. If he doesn't change then you will leave. Let him know that you are serious and if he loves you then he will change. If he doesn't change or at least try to change, then that means he doesn't really care what you do and that's not the type of relationship you need to have.

11 years non stop drinking... i would've left after 10

You can't. Only he can stop and only when he's ready. Sadly most never do. It may be time to see an attorney and get it.

nothing!it is time to get a life for yourself.is it worth staying ?the worst still could happened!pack your bags and show you mean Business,if he doesn't change,then time for you to change your life,good luck!