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How can I regain her trust?

My girl and I broke up a few months ago and recently got back together. While we were seperated, I made plans to meet up with a girl I used to sleep with who lives in a different state. Well before I was supposed to meet up with this girl, my current GF and I started talking again so I cancelled my trip. But I told her that the trip was planned with a friend of mine, not that I was supposed to be meeting up with a girl. Well of course she found out the truth and is very upset that I lied to her. I explained that I planned the trip while we were apart and didn't want to upset her with the real reason which is why I lied. But she is convinced that she cannot trust me now. She has also found out that I had lied about a few other small things while we were together which makes her trust me even less. I have never cheated and would never cheat but since these little lies I made have come up (and I have come clean about all of them) she says she can't believe anything I say. We have made an appointment with a counselor (my idea) to help us through this but is there anything else I can do to regain her trust. And yes, I know that not lying anymore is where I need to start which I have.

Update:

I do not blame her at all for feeling this way and I know that I was wrong. I just want to make it right with her. And love is not an issue, she knows I love her and I treat her like it everyday, not just saying it.

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  • 1 decade ago
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    Explain her that it was a mistake and if ever get chance you will not even make a plan...and ask her how can you make things better....

  • Nena S
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago

    Everybody is different. Some people have a more forgiving nature than others.

    I believe actions speak louder than words. I'd much rather be with a man who showed me he loved me than with a man who told me he loved me...but acted otherwise. But that is just me....

    Lies and deceit lead nowhere good. You are now paying the price of your decisions...and only time will tell if you are really truthful now or not. You cannot blame her for feeling the way she does, can you?

    How would you feel and act if she had done this to you¨? Would you be willing to "forgive and forget"?

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