My boyfriends hates holidays! ?

No offence but your boyfriend sounds very selfish and unpleasant. He should be willing to take your feelings into consideration too. He may not like presents but you do. You shouldn't have to change the way you are just to please him. It could be that you are just both very incompatible. He had no right to get pissed at you for buying him a gift - that was rather nasty. Are you sure you wanna be with somebody like that? You sound like a lovely caring girl. Don't let him ruin Christmas for you. It's supposed to be a happy time. :-)

Mine hates going because there's always so many jobs to do at home, and he doesn't see why I need to 'run away'. This was solved when we went somewhere that had his hobby, but better. Be prepared to put up with some trainspotting, golf or whatever is his thing - at least you'll enjoy meals out with him - to do all the research, planning, packing & arranging yourself, and to take the blame if the hotel isn't as it appeared on the website or the flight is delayed. Have you got to the bottom of why the stress/defensiveness? Perhaps he hasn't admitted to a fear of flying, for example? Suggest boat or the tunnel & see how he reacts, or perhaps he's afraid of feeling 'lost' in a foreign place so you could try Jersey - familiar but different? Btw my own fear of flying was overcome very simply - Paul McKenna's CD (he has a website). It reprogrammes you to enjoy flying, and I can now get on a plane without feeling sick & panicky.

Compromises in relationships need to go both ways. He may detest holidays and there is nothing you can do to make him change his mind. That has to be something that he does of his own accord. All you can really do is talk to him and let him know that this is something that is important to you, that you enjoy this time of year and all that it brings and he will either accept that and the two of you can work out an acceptable compromise or he won't. Let me promise you, you do not want to build something that will last a lifetime with someone who is unwilling to work with you on things that are important to you, just as you need to be willing to work with that person on things that are important to them. So maybe don't have a huge blow-out Christmas, but don't ignore it all together. Don't go all out with huge parties and things for birthdays, but don't ignore those all together either. If it is important to you and he loves you the way he should if you are planning a life together, he will find a way to make it important to him. And if not...... :(

boyfriends hates holidays

Well I didn't know the answer but I asked my boyfriend and he said to just except him like that. But if its to much to deal with you always have other option.