How long to forget the first wife?

Suspect the memories and feeling would have faded and gone much quicker if your subsequent wife had not been so understanding

I've always heard the phrase "you never forget your first wife", now in your case I see that this is very true. Do you miss your wife in a physical manner or you just enjoy the memories of being with her. Are you in love with your current wife, to the fullest? Be honest with yourself first, then everything else will fall into place for you. Maybe you need to find your first wife and ask her what is Truly on your mind. You KNOW what I mean? I know you do. Start with what you are feeling inside your heart and follow it, in order for you to move on in life. I wish you all the best!!! Good luck.

wow.. not that its going to help but i hope my ex feels this way some day!! haha.. no but honestly maybe you still love her? have you ever tried getting in contact with her at least for a little closure? other than that, well you messed up. maybe she was an amazing nice girl who made you laugh and loved you and would never do anything but good for you and you let her go because you were stupid and arrogant, and this is what you get.. or maybe im just hopeing thats what would happen with me :( lol.. sorry i guess this makes me think of things with my own life..

but best of luck. if i couldnt forget someone for 18 years i wouldnt know what to do :(

"forget" is the wrong term. You can get over past relationships as in cease to love that person, but you can never forget them, nor the feelings you have felt. All of your past relationships should be remembered, and will effect who you are in a today - because we are made from past experiences. Of course a relationship as serious as a past marriage will have a strong effect on you. I do not think what you are feeling is abnormal.

It never ends--its part of your memory and subconscious thoughts- you cant eliminate those thoughts-- but you can replace those thoughts with negative thoughts. Also, you still may be in love with her-- 18 years is a long time and I think you should reevaluate what you need in your life. You mind and heart are trying to tell you something.

Well, that is too long, bub. I am surprised your wife puts up with being the second fiddle to a long gone wife. You should get over yourself and learn to love the wife you have, she sounds like a gracious and understanding woman.

Let go dude, you screwed up. Be happy with your life now and treat the new wife better than you did the first.