women who have cheated on their bf or spouse...?

this question is for the women who have cheated on their bf or spouse for no other reason than financial gain...

after living with a man who gave you everything you asked for, never asked you to pay for or do anything out of the ordinary or against your will, never cheated on you, supported you and your child from another marriage financially, making and keeping you happy (at least thats what they thought because thats what you told them and you claimed throughout the relationship that you never lied) ; i have a few questions:

1) even tho ur spouse/bf partially figured out what u were doing (leaving soon, not suspecting cheating yet) and told you so, why would you lie and say no and continue to stay with him and sleep in the same bed while continuing to cheat...

2) why would you continue to stay claiming to yourself and your friends that u don't have enough money to leave instead of asking the person ur cheating with for help outside of bed...

3) why would you after a few months say you can't do this anymore and tell your bf/spouse that ur leaving but that its not his fault or anything he did, its all you and what you want...what is it you can't do anymore, stay with one while cheating with the other and live with yourself... and why is it your bf's/spouses fault u can't do it anymore...

4) is it because its hard living two unrealistic lives when you know ur hurting someone else...and if it is, was it all worth it in the end...

5) when the person u cheated with dumps you, why did you try returning to ur now ex-bf/spouse claiming it was all their fault u did what u did dispite what u said when you walked out the door to go to the cheat that it wasn't anything the bf/spouse did, it was all you and what u wanted and needed to do...

see ladies, we men have a sense when somethings wrong at home also, and we can see the signs that the spouse/gf is about to walk...new checking acct in ur own name, locking ur car door when u come home after never locking it during the whole relationship, never coming home anymore for dinner claiming 2 be eating big lunches ur boss bought u, walking into other rooms when ur cell rings and deleting e-mails quickly, trying to get the mail before your bf/spouse does, looking at classifieds at apartments, etc; so why try to cover it up...

curiosity kills the cat...

why did i post this question: perchance seeing these questions in print and trying to answer some of them may help someone out there to rethink what they are doing or are about to do.

has this happened...i'm sure it has for many men and women.

thank you all for your realistic input.

good luck and GOD bless.