What to do with a rude and very spoiled 8 year old girl?

Wow...that's got to be pretty frustrating. Well for starters, there's really not anything that you can do about her behaviour in general, since you're not her parent. But you can definately get a handle on her behaviour towards you. For instance, when she takes your bag, take it back from her - yes, snatch it away - and tell her "NO. That is MY bag, and you're not allowed to go through it." Yes, she's going to throw a fit, cry, call you mean and say she hates you, ect. Just look her in the eye and say, "I don't care how much you hate me. You're not being very nice right now, so I don't like you too much either. You can cry all you want, but you are still not allowed to go through my things."

Also, you don't have to say yes to babysitting her. It's perfectly alright to tell her Mom no if you want to. If she asks why, this could be a good time to bring up the kid's behaviour: "I don't mean to be rude or insulting, but your child is awfully rude and disobedient. She hurts my feelings, takes my things, won't mind, yells and screams, and I don't want to deal with it." You could also mention that you're uncomfortable baby-sitting such a disobedient kid because she makes up lies about people, and you don't want her telling people you hit her just because you made her do her homework....and from what you've described, that's a perfectly legitimate point!

But anyway, as for dealing with the kid when she's around you, if she's being rude directly to you, just be firm with her and tell her to stop it.

I am afraid that the biggest problem with this little girl is the mother. She isn't doing her job. As a parent our job is to teach our children right from wrong so they can grow into responsible adults. I have three children of my own, and while I think I do spoil them, they are responsible, well mannered and conscientious. They care about others and other people's property and respect their elders, whether they like them or not. It isn't an easy thing to accomplish in this day and age but I think if more parents took the time to teach their kids these valuable lessons starting from day one; the kids today would have less problems than they do and would be able to show respect and empathy for others. Parenting isn't easy; and unfortunately your decisions as a parent don't always make you popular with your kids. My kids have, over the years, become very angry with me for for saying 'no', but in the end they still love me and respect my decision. Even if they do 'hate' me at the time. Perhaps you could suggest she take a parenting class. Some parents today feel that children have all the power but the truth is, they have nothing. I took a parenting class to help me deal with my nephew, whom we had living with us for a while. He was a handful to say the least. In the class I learned one valuable piece of information. Parents do have all the power and the kids have nothing. The only things parents are required by law to provide for their children is a place to sleep, clothes to wear, food to fill their belly and a roof over their heads. Not their favorite foods; beans and cabbage will do fine. Not new fancy designer clothes; thrift store clothing will do fine. Everything else is at the parents discretion.

There isn't much you or her brother can do. Unfortunately her parents have to be the ones to actually lay down the law. I think the best idea for kids who lie about being abused is to take them to a shelter to visit children who really have been abused and have them apologize for taking precious time away from getting them help because they wanted attention. There's a lot I can deal with when it comes to spoiled children, but ones who make false reports about abuse make me sick. Kids are murdered by their parents everyday because there isnt' enough manpower to cover all cases immediately. If you choose to continue babysitting her (although I wouldn't it might show her mom how awful things are) sit her down and tell her there are some rules for when you watch her.

#1 You will be respectful. That means respecting you, respecting property and respecting herself. If she chooses to misbehave she can sit in timeout at the dining room table, there will be no TV no vido games, no games, no toys, no playing outside, nothing until she shows you she can be respectful.

First of all, WHY is your bag out where someone else can get to it? You should keep your handbag where no one can get to it. Secondly. Just about all you have done is blame the mother of this child. All you have said about the father is that he "tried" to discipline her. Trying doesn't cut it. If he doesn't' discipline her while she is with you then she is going to continue to behave in this matter. Stop blaming the mother and tell your boyfriend to grow a set of balls and a backbone and start disciplining HIS child. As for babysitting her...yes you CAN say "No"...If you choose not to then you have no cause to complain about the child. You keep blaming the mother and the child and yet YOU choose to babysit her then turn around and complain and her father doesn't discipline her. When are you and the child's father going to take responsibility for YOUR actions rather than continue to blame someone else?

Wow, I'd say she is spoiled.

In my opinion, what her mom should do is take away all of her favorite things. And every time, she is good she gets one thing back. The reverse works as well.

Give her an allowence and make her understand the meaning of money and how it doesn't grow on trees.

Hope this helps.

WOW!

Here's what you could do. Don't get her a single thing for Christmas. Nothing! Then have someone that you know who is somewhat believable, like a lawyer, be around when she doesn't get anything. And take a video of the whole thing.

The mother is being totally irresponsible. and where is the child's father?

It seems that something is running in the family.

Just don't buy her anything!Tell the mom very gently that she's being too nice,and tell the kid that if she bosses you around,you will not buy her anything!If you say it more than twice,say that children are not to boss adults around, and stay true to your word that you have said to her before.If this happens again,just tell your bf that you cannot stand his sister.

Wow! I agree with Pat R. Maybe you can give her a present but like don't give her everything she wants. She's just going to get spoiled and more spoiled. Or ground her for a year or something.

Good luck.

wow that's i would just ground the kid and take away her stuff til she learns her lesson then slowly give her back her current stuff. or send her to a concoler or somewhere. of course she would flip out.....so send her to foster care for awhile? im not sure. her mom would get ratted out for beating her.....it would prolly be easier to yell at the kid yourself and lock her in a room, or yell at the mom. its the moms fault. or just say you dont want to come over until she gets that kids manners good. or whatever.

gee wizz! this is horrible! you could try telling your boyfriends mom about it and be like listen you either control your child or im quitting as a baby sitter. or you and your boyfriend can take matters into your own hands as try teaching her day by day but i doubt it'd work. i feel so sorry for you