Son's birthday party--am I overreacting?

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My son's birthday is 4 days before Christmas, so he's got it hard to begin with, lol.  We set his birthday party for December 6th, hoping to avoid the last minute Christmas stress; in addition, our niece's baby's birthday is the day after Christmas, so we wanted to avoid conflicts with her party.  I sent out invitations the first week of November.  More than half the guests on our list can't make it.  I figured we'd just go ahead with the party with the family and friends who can make it, rather than trying to find a date that most can come.  What irritates me is that we talked to my sister-in-law today (she never RSVP'd, so we had to keep calling), and she wants us to try to find a date when her family can make it, which isn't working for us because our schedules are full too.
I guess I'm just ticked because we always go to their kids' parties and events, and we don't give anyone a hassle about the dates they choose.  And I know I should probably just let this go and not cause trouble in the family.  But am I overreacting for being irritated with the family over this?  Should I say something to the ones who ticked me off, or just let it go?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Honestly I understand why you're annoyed because we're all human.  I would be annoyed too.  At the same time, what is it that's a conflict for your sister in law?  Maybe it's really important.  I wouldn't be mad that they  couldn't come, but mad that they had the nerve to ask you to change the date to suit their needs.  I don't know anyone who would do that.  Quite simply you have numerous guests who can come on that date, that have dutifully RSVP'd.  the world doesn't revolve around your sister in law. If she can't come, too bad for you.  While I wouldn't say anything about it (because in family you really have to pick your battles)  I wouldn't stress about it either.  Enjoy your son and his party and know you're the bigger person!

Chesire · Answer

Try not to take it personally.  This is a stressful time for a lot of families.  I actually think it was nice or thoughtful your sister-in-law asked if you could move the date.  The world does not revolve around her, but obviously she really wanted to make it to your kid's party.  

Don't say anything to you family.  Turn the situation around, if you regrettably could not make it to an event because of a schedule conflict, would you want to them to make you feel guilty or bad about it?

baby bree is 7 weeks old · Answer

I understand completely, My sons birthday is the 6th of december so naturally we are having his party on that date, My brother in law and his wife aren't coming because he has his work party that day, What's more important a work party or your nephews birthday, I didn't change the date but I did tell him that I was confused about his priorities.

? · Answer

i could bypass forward and use Nut Bush. (it must be worse.) in case you're making the invites your self, you could substitute the font length or despite to make the handle slightly smaller than something of the invitation. in any different case, i does no longer hassle approximately it. maximum 11 12 months olds probable won't think of a situation of Nut Bush. the mother and dad would have a sprint a giggle, yet they are unlikely to be indignant. that's unlike you chosen the call of your highway :).

Bridget S · Answer

Just tell her you can't change the date, and that although you'd love them to come, you understand if they can't make it.

sonnyboym.1939@sbcglobal.net · Answer

dont play second fiddle to anyone,or anything

Anonymous · Answer

let it go its the holidays

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Son's birthday party--am I overreacting?

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