Long story, genuine question PLEASE HELP anyone thank you?

It definitely sounds like she would at least like to experiment with you! If you are sure you don't want to go there, you could say something like, "Look, you know I love you but you also know I'm straight, right?"

I went ahead and tried carrying on with my best friend a long time ago; it was OK but honestly all that happened is we got confirmation that we're straight. And we satisfied our curiosity. Fortunately we're still friends (25 years later!)

The big question for you is whether you think you can clear things up with her without losing your friendship. All I can advise is to be honest and also relaxed; if your friendship is strong and you're able to communicate openly, that's the most important thing.

If there's any unspoken agenda like getting into threesomes with her husband (sorry, but people do stuff like like) that would be asking for a lot more trouble than just playing with your friend.

And if the idea of any experimentation, even just with her, absolutely does not appeal to you, then it's your right to let her know.

Good luck! You'll be fine!

These are 2 girls for those who asked. The person asking the question seems to be straight...

It is definitely flirting, & I would feel uncomfortable the same way you do and probably "test" her also...although it could be interpreted as flirting.

She probably is still adjusting to the marriage & clinging on to the closest thing to her (assuming you). But, I think it may be too early to confront her, just wait until a definite inquiry/statement from her.

Until then, keep giggling it off and maybe hinting more often your interest in other people & men (if i guessed u were straight correctly)

when your friends for that long it could be that she honestly misses you, and the moments you guys had. I just recently got married and I miss my best friend (which is a guy so i dont know if this helps..) and even though i dont tell him i love him i do miss him. And when she said she should of married you, i think it was because when you said you were gonna rent a cabin, who wouldn't want someone to rent a cabin for them? If you want to ask her, you could always get her drunk and ask her, so she wont remember the next day lol. 11 years is a long time to be best friends, she just might miss all the time you spent together

That does sound like strange behaviour. I take it ever since you've known her she hasn't been like that with you before. You need to be careful as the questions you asked her to "test" her make it sound like you are flirting back. You want to save yourself embarressment so if I was in that situation I think I'd just ignore any flirty comments or suggestions from her and carry on as normal and not address it unless she actually makes a move on you. How is her relationship with her husband going? Maybe he's in on it too....i.e maybe she's buttering you up for a threesome!!

she does seem to be flirting a bit. It's possible that it is a reaction to getting married, that she feel like she didn't get to try everything she wanted to before becoming tied down to one guy. Sometimes people can get in a mode like that and she may be flirting with you because she would feel like it was wrong to be flirting with another guy. If she flirts with you, she can feel better because you're her best friend and if she acts sexually with you she can pass it off as a joke or "girls can do that stuff with their friends." Try to feel it out to see if she really has feelings for you or if she's just trying to get something out of her system.

If you've been friends for 11 years, then I'm sure she just feels really really close to you! Maybe she doesn't want you to feel like you're out of the picture just because she's married, and wants to keep close to you.

I mean, she could be flirting with you - but I'm sure if she is, it's just payful messing around

i'd say there's defo something going on.

If it's making you uncomfortable talk to her about it. Just be sensitive around the issue, tell her how you want the friendship to be and take it from there.

I dont get it. are you lesbian? And anyway female or male. dont take part in falling her marriage apart. she probably recognized that she is not into marriage life or her man or men at all. and tell her that its inappropiate bec she is married .

Do you have feelings for her or would you rather remain friends?

shes flirting

u a guy? or girl?