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Jm asked in Pregnancy & ParentingAdolescent · 1 decade ago

I'm a concerned mother and want to know if I have the right to ask this question?

I have a 10 year old daughter with my ex fiancee. I have an another daughter with my current fiance. My older daughter's father is semi- present in his daughter's life. He will see her once or twice a week for a month than he does not see her for like three months. He sporadically pays child support. ( very irresponsible person) So he recently got engaged and had a baby about a month ago. Here's the issue I found out that his fiancee has three children that she does not have custody of. ( Ages 16-13-and ) I never asked why because I felt it was none of my business. I found out that she never had custody of her youngest, the child lived with his father from birth. My daughters father met her while in Florida on business and within a few weeks she got pregnant and she left her kids in florida and came to Jersey. She has not seen her kids since she got here ( jersey) and it's been about a year. Well my question is do I have the right to know why she does not have her children. Sometimes my daughter is visiting and I can't help but wonder if it was a drug related issue, because it is not the norm for women to not have their kids...? thanks for reading all the details...

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
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    I think you totally have the right to ask something like that because your daughter is involved. You're only being a responsible parent, which lord knows we need more of those.

    You should totally ask what's up with that situation, if it seems fishy it most likely is.

    I really hope this helped and I hope you get the answers you were looking for. Good luck to you.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    you have a right to know

    but some people just leave their kids

    like this woman i know she has 5 kids. and shes only 29! her oldest is my age [16] i grew up good friends with her oldest daughter and i knew all her younger sisters n brother and she never cared about them kids. there was a different guy in that house every week, they live in small apartments- her mom cant even keep an apartment. its horrible she was/is so mean to them kids- i cnt go into full detail- and its all cause she chose her men b4 kids- ALWAYS

    -true story

  • 1 decade ago

    If you feel concerned you should definetly ask. If it's something like drugs you don't want your daughter around an influence like that. It is a very serious situation when a mother gets her children taken away. You definetly have the right, and should ask as soon as possible.

  • 1 decade ago

    if you're daughter is there then yes you have the right to ask. usually for a mom to loose custody they have to prove her an unfit mother which is usually drugs or the fact that they're nuts. they could cause harm to the kids or themselves. so i would def ask if i were you before i'd let my kid be around her again.

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  • 1 decade ago

    Yes you absolutely have the right to ask this question! If your child is around her, you have a right to know if your child could be in danger. Especially if her father isn't the most responsible person.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    i think you should find out so you know if she is putting your daughter in danger or not. but it could just be that she just doesn't care bout her kids and only cares about the man she is with. but you should ask in a way that doesn't make you look noisy... like "so when do i get to meet your other kids?"

  • 1 decade ago

    My belief is that it is our job as protectors of our children to check into anything that may put our children in danger. I think you have good reason to ask. (kids safety first!)

  • 1 decade ago

    It could be drug related but it sounds more like she's not interested in her previous kids, they must be like "yesterday's paper" to her. Poor kids. Unfortunately, it happens, I know 2 other women like that who have left their children behind in favour of the New Lover.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Yes you do. Your kids could be in danger or something or learning bad influences.

    xoxo Jeana

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    yes, you have the right she can be putting your kids in danger with out you knowing it.

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