What does it mean to be passive aggressive?

Passive-aggressive behavior refers to passive, sometimes obstructionist resistance to following through with expectations in interpersonal or occupational situations. It can manifest itself as learned helplessness, procrastination, stubbornness, resentment, sullenness, or deliberate/repeated failure to accomplish requested tasks for which one is (often explicitly) responsible. It is a defense mechanism, and (more often than not) only partly conscious. For example, suppose someone does not wish to attend a party. A passive-aggressive response in that situation might involve taking so long to get ready that the party is nearly over by the time they arrive.

When your in a passive aggressive relationship, you and the other person are in an unhealthy relationship. Why is that? Because each of you learn how to control the other person with your emotions and actions.

When you are a passive person, you withhold your thoughts and feelings from others.

When you are an aggressive person, however, you believe that your opinions are more important than the other person.

So, when you combine passive and aggressive, you have got

"Nothing is bothering me. I'm fine!" (Three days later...) Your screaming, fighting, and yelling at your significant other because he or she didn't do what you wanted, needed, or expected. This occurs until both partners are so drained that they either start avoiding each other, start yelling at each other, or are on the verge of a breakup or divorce.

Being a passive-aggressive person creates passive-aggressive relationships, which means your behavior is affecting the other person, whether you're aware of it or not.

Although you have the right to be angry, sad, and/or frustrated, you do not have the right to control someone else with your emotions

hope i helpedd.

It's not necessarily a BAD thing - although in some people it could be if the aggressive side is violent and out of control. But typically in short... a passive aggressive person <my husband is one> appears to be quieter, calm, and easily pushed around - BUT watch out if they are pushed into a corner or confronted with something that really MATTERS to them because their lurking AGGRESSIVE SIDE flares up and WATCH out for fireworks - they aren't so pushed around as they APPEAR and aren't so passive and weak as people like to label them as being.

Alternatively a total aggressive <which is me> never claims or tries to imply passiveness or weakness - I just am RIGHT THERE in your face 24/7. Much more annoying!