Can you love somebody after a very brief encounter.?

You will forget him in time you are just longing for something you know you can't have. Take care and be happy with your family.

Hey that is not love. you are still in the state of fancying your colleague.

We can say it love if your colleague is

i)Taking care of you no matter what

ii)He too keeps thinking about you

iii)Loves you the way you are.

These things are to be considered before you can say its love.

Things like say He's Cute,Hot,Kind, Smart all these are for fancying a person and rest all the adjectives like truthful,kind honesty but these are about the person he may be good/bad..

we say Love only when the other person feels the same for you too..not in words.

Coming to Family I don't know about the problem why you broke up

But my suggestion is If you Partner & Father really realized their mistake felt sorry for you and came back just to help you at this point of time..not for the good of kids..then you trust them..and better stay with your family and lovely children who really wants you.

If your Partner and Family just came back for the sake of kids and have no respect for you and still not admitting that they have cheated then confirm weather your colleague is feeling the same for you and you decide what to do. even I can't make up my mind.

I think what you feel for this other guy is infatuation. Probably if you got together with him you would be deflated after a very short time, due to the fact that you obviously feel something very deep for the guy you are with and the fact that you would hurt your children very much. If you feel you can now trust you partner, I'd say go with it. If you can't, then you must end it and see what eventuates, be it with this other guy or whoever.

Well you more than likely need to get this other man out of your mind for your children sake. Never mind your cheater husband in this equation. Your love for your kids needs to out weigh this other man.

However, if you seek a divorce from your husband then there is no reason you cannot see other people or this other man again but its gonna require explaining the situation to your kids. I have seen few cases where kids were "traumatized" by a divorce, merely confused.

If you still love and "trust" your husband then put this guy out of your mind.

It's a tough one because I dated someone while me and my now husband were on a break but it wasn't for very long, I love my husband to bits and wouldn't change him for the world but he didn't cheat on me, I'm not sure how I'd feel if he'd cheated on me.

Having children doesn't make it easier either, I guess you've gotta ask yourself if you're happy to continue sacrificing your love-life for the sake of your children's happiness - which means more to you? It seems you've already decided it's your childrens feelings.

Nope, it's not love. It's lust...infatuation, but not love. Love takes time to grow and mature.

It's one of the hard choices of life.

oh the other guy looks like your rebound guy, but that's not a real love so you will be over him don't worry :D

no but you can be super attracted to them to the point it drives you crazy.