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Try to persuade him to go to AA

You're not doing anything wrong if all you're doing is meeting new people to have a nice time with.

But you know this could lead to other things - alienation from your husband, more than friendships developing if he's not giving you the attention you need etc.

So, deal with the problem, don't run away from it with your new friends. Find out why he's drinking, and if there's no clear reason then alarm bells should be ringing full tilt. Someone who drinks this much will change even more over time; you need to know what you're letting yourself in for if this doesn't get sorted now. He'll become distant, arrogant, selfish, abusive, uncaring and insensitive; he'll stop looking after himself and you; you will be blamed for everything and he'll become a total liar. Life with an alcoholic is no life at all.

You've got AlAnon if you need help, he's got AA. Only he can make the decision to stop drinking and get back the life he had - you can't make him and nothing you say or do will change that situation.

Your new friends are only a temporary measure, you have to go home eventually, just make sure that it is still a home and doesn't become a hell.

Trust me on this one, this is one road that can only go downhill unless you both turn around right now.

There is nothing wrong with meeting new people , but it will not solve the problem of his drinking. If your husband is not willing to address this problem and deal with it, then I'm afraid your life is going to be filled with misery , abuse, loneliness, and heartache. Going out with your friends is only running from the problem...which I can't blame you for doing that , but you really need to think of your future with this man. Try talk to him when he is sober, see is he having some sort of problems that you are not aware off and then his drinking can be dealt with. Don't allow this to go on any longer...why waste many years living with a man , that drinks,and sleeps...there is so much more to life , you must realise, you deserve to enjoy your life...not be stressed out all the time...Remember you are doing nothing wrong , but sadly he is.. his drinking is going to destroy your marriage if he does not change his ways.

You are doing great. Your man is a looser so move on with your life. Good luck*