help? female co workers are hugging my husband?

Your husband sounds like he is enjoying the attention but it is going to come at a price for him professionally not to mention in his personal life and marriage.

How would he feel if HIS BOSS saw him receiving this kind of attention in the parking lot?

Intentional or not, it's unprofessional. Period.

It is going to keep him from getting promoted for sure.

If not reprimanded.

Especially if his company has ever paid out over any sexual harassment suits....

He needs to realize that it isnt cute or sweet, it's unprofessional on his part.

So a girl acts innappropriately by making physical contact, he still needs to respond professionally.

She is responsible for her actions, he is also responsible for his.

And he needs to set a better professional example.

My suggestion, he needs to respond to her with something to the affect:

"I appreciate the gesture, however, it's not appropriate." And move away from her instead of him allowing her to hug him.

The same way a person responds to any physical advance in the work place.

That is the professional side.

Then personally, tell him we 'teach people' how to treat us and he needs to be more conscious of how he allows other women to approach him. Co worker or otherwise.

How would he feel if a young male co worker touched you?

I doubt he would feel as content.

He needs to have the same response and-in his actions-show more respect for his marriage and spouse.

Your husband is the key factor here.

He should not start this kind of hugging culture especially when he is also not comfortable with people hugging you!! He should be firm with his stand and no one can take advantage of any situation to get close.

You are right, young girls dont hug for friendship or kinship. Basically they may be trying to flirt or may be harbouring some intentions towards their Boss.

If your husband cant pull away a hug from a sweet little girl, he is already being manipulated!!

Be firm with this issue for the sake of your marriage.

Talk to him and let him know that he needs to be firm with his stand so that no other women can get near. Communicate with him and understand his thoughts.

Affairs often start off when men dont know how to reject, they feel embarrassed that female may think that they are too conservative and they try to be outgoing and manly. Little did they know that they are falling for such ego fulfilling treatment from other female.

You are not wrong to be unhappy over what people may think," it is just a hug!" You dont want to be stepping in only when," it is just having sex!" If it is really a trival issue, your husband wouldnt be unhappy in the first place when your cousin hugged you.

Talking about religon, the more he needs to be responsible and commitment to family beliefs.

There is nothing wrong with not feeling comfortable with hugging andf kissing. A sincere handshake is sufficent!

Dont take it out on hubby - some girls at this age hug everyone a little too much - they don't mean anything by it but all the same it makes the wife a little jealous.

You clearly and assertively say - if its one rule for you - then its the same rule for you - no hugging.

You going to let someone hug you - then so am i and im going to ignore your feelings like you ignored mine when you hugged that girl.

I also hate to worry you - but a guy that reacts so badly to his partners physical contact with other guys - usually reacts from a guilty conscience - s ounds like very strange psychology doesnt it - but men are wired a bit different ... I had a partner once who was sending / recieving crude text messages and when someone sent me one (it was a misfired text) and he saw it he went crazy - that was my first indication of a prob - i checked his phone - and what did i find ...!

So it may not be - but just be careful. A guy that makes the rules at home then breaks them himself thinks he is in charge and this can only mean disrespect towards you.

Start asserting yourself and your needs more and try not to be too naive or he'll play on it !

I know the feeling and if he is her boss she is probably playing up to him. Your right to be upset. I would tell him that if he doesn't want me to treat him the same way, then he needs to stop allowing any female to hug (or kiss) him.

Tell him it is totally unappropriate and that he needs to set limits. Those women could be interpreting it differently. He is opening pandoras box and that simple hug could lead to more in time. It is disrespectful to you and what you too share. Nip this one in the butt now, or you may be walking later.

Tell him you won't take this anymore. It's not your job to stop his coworkers from hugging him - it's his.

Gently and honestly share with your husband how you feel about this. Ask him not to hug her.

the jealousy your'e speaking of here is a sickness, ..you and him.

You both need some professional help, i suggest you seek it, as i've personally seen it destroy marriages.

also if you truly trust him, then thats great, there are so many little wh*res out there its pathetic, ...(just as many sleazy men though too, ) get some help, you'll be glad u did, both of you

I got news for you honey....that's his girlfriend. As for the boss...haven't you ever heard of blowin your way to the top????? This girls is smart....and you are left holding the bag.