why are men so fickle?

Are you nuts? I believe that the common notion is that women are fickle. Haven't you heard that famous opera song La Donna e Mobile? Translation: Women are fickle. And it wouldn't be so famous if it weren't spot on.

Women can be just as fickle. Character is something that builds over a long period of time. Friendship is not Courtship. Friendship between 3 or 10 friends for example is friendship. When it is courtship, the men will give you the attention. If they do not want the attention you are giving them, and ignore you, then go on and start setting goals for yourself, and climb higher in your life's personal goals

than you have before. If they come back asking for attention from you, that is quite another thing. You can tell them: give me some space. I am not sure that I want an "all or nothing" relationship right now. I want to have a friend who truly enjoys my friendship. Only as I have a faithful, good, kind, and earnest friend will that friend even possibly become the one who "Courts" me. And I will work on my own inner goals and brainstorm what I want in a friend. And one of those friends will become my "best friend." A true friend will never try to have total control over you, but will share, and be ONE. It does not mean you won't disagree, but that you will agree to disagree, and give each other the right to be themselves.

Fickleness comes from "uncertainty" in goals, so search for a man who will be certain of his mind about matters of faith, family, work, and babies, raising children, and you will see that he is more focused on being his best for you.

As teens, however, it is important to have several friend boys and several friend girls in order to discover what they are like and how they think. It is important not to jealous if you discover someone takes out a boy you like, and vice versa. Until "you are engaged" you can mot say a boy is fickle, unless he keeps behaving just as he did before.

Little lady75

Littlelady75

I thought it was the other way around! Hah.

I don't think you're sexist or that your question is unreasonable. I just disagree with your gender conclusion!

Actually, more seriously, PEOPLE are fickle.

Basically we are all just looking out for number one, so behavior conforms to that. More specifically, playing hard to get has always worked fairly well--including sales in stores ("better hurry up, sale's over next Friday!"). It's kind of along the lines that people appreciate more what they have to earn or pay for, at times, dearly.

You're talking about the perverseness of human nature. Why stress over it?! Better: look for a more mature guy. Immature ones are always a lot of trouble and usually don't work out, no matter how good looking!

A guy could work 2 jobs just to give the wife/girlfriend everything she wants/a better life; and she'll leave him cause he's never there. A girl will cook, clean, be faithful, and her man will leave her for the tramp at the bar. It depends on the person, not their sex. Some say its cause the love is gone, or there is no "challenge." Bottom line is if a person feels their mate(s) are fickle, may be they should choose better mates regardless if your a man or a woman.

Sexist.

boys are fickle men know what they want and go get it or at least try to. so stop messing around with little boys and get a real man

It's great that you give men attention. Even too much attention is good for the guy who gets it.

I think you should read 'He's just not that into you' - highly amusing answers to the male mind and how to read it

Happy reading

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It sounds like you're describing a cat!

obviously you give them reason to be, you attract the wrong men etc. its an obvious answer. why do you stereotype?