What would a wife do if she determined her husband of several years was gay?

obviously he is not really gay if he wasn't when they got married and while they were together. when else would he have the time? she is apparently very immature to use "gay" as a derogatory comment.

Well, if she is verbally abusive then the man should say what he has to and get out! No one should have to put up with that kind of abuse. Personally if my husband told me he was gay...i would ask him if it were my fault...and i would tell him i would want him to be happy even if that means being with someone else. but in this case i would still like to remain friends as i would still love him! If she is verbally abusive then love isnt really present to begin with.

My brother in law was gay. My sister in law accepted it. The key thing is verbally abusive, I would say they should both go their separate ways if one can't accept it.

People just do not go gay. If I suspected that my husband was gay I would be asking him about it. It would not be fair or desirable to live a lie. I would want us both to be happy even though I would be really pissed off at being lied to.

I don't understand if you are asking what SHE should do about suspecting he is gay or what HE should do about her being verbally abusive.

if she really thought he was gay, im sure a lot of women would divorce. and i agree with psych lapse.

You have described two different situations.

Either he IS gay, or he's not...

GO FOR A SEX CHANGE OPERATION IF SHE REALLY LOVES HIM AND STILL WANTS TO BE WITH HIM.

AND IF SHE DOESNT LOVES HIM THAT MUCH.....JUST A DIVORCE.

BUT NO VERBAL ABUSING.

UNLIKE STRAIGHT MEN, GAYS ARE SENSITIVE

Did you discover he is.....or would you like him to be?

life goes on....