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Would you forgive your boyfriend for calling you a whore when you are faithful and honest?

I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years. We have lived together for 1 year. We recently have picked out an engagement ring and planning to get engaged by the end of this year. He has always told me everyday how much he loves me, he always wants to make me happy no matter what. And stupid me....I fell for it. He was drinking this past weekend and he came into the living room and out of the blue he tells me this...."You are a whore, you were a whore when I met you, your a whore now, and you will always be a whore!" We weren't even in a heated argument. I was completely blindsided by this. I haven't spoke to him in 3 days. I can't breathe when I think about it. I am beyond hurt. This is the first man I actually have been honest with and have let him in my personal life. He keeps calling my cell and leaving me messages of how sorry he is and he didn't mean it. I don't know what to do because the pain of this is unbearable. Not only does this comment let me know what he thinks of me, but it shows me disrespect. No one has ever said anything so hurtful to me ever. What would you do if you were me? Remember, we live together but I am not sure I can get past this and forgive.

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  • 1 decade ago

    I'll put the cards on the table and let the boy know how I feel. If what I feel is honest, sincere and positive. Then that is what I meant. But if it is negative. Hey! But the real solution is forgive him. He was drunk. But nawl..don't forgive him. What if he is cheating and has another chick on the side. Nawll...ok..let me chill. But anyways..you should forgive and forget. THe past is the past and is never to be spoken of. If you keep speaking of the past, you won't have no future.

  • Ed F
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago

    Forget the engagement as he is not the right one for you.

    He is showing signs of being an abuser, and first it is the talk and then he will get physical.

    Time to move on.

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