ghosts of christmas past?

I can not tell you how to do that. I can tell you what I had to do and why. My son passed away 8.5 years ago and my daughter was still born in Dec of that same year. I didnt want to have Christmas with out my children. I didnt want to do anything without my children. But then I had another child and then another and then one more(I have 5. 2 in heaven and 3 here) I had to put my children in front of my pain. It was hard, sometimes still is, but its the best thing I could do. I had to put my faith in Christ and know that I was going to be happy even when things made me think of bad times, I could deal with that.

It has to be your decision when you are going to put your grief/hard feelings aside and let yourself enjoy your family and the Christmas season. Nobody can make you or even tell you its time. You have to do it yourself.

I pray that God helps you have the strength to do that soon!

The only answer I can give you is this:

I understand that it is hard to leave memories left from an past marriage. They will always be there tucked away until the day you do something you use to do to open up that memory so you can reminisces about the past or be haunted by it. What you need to do is to Talk to the " Ghost of Christmas Future " and make new, better memories for the many Christmases to come. And there will be better ones. I promise

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~ Merry Christmas ~

florida_cowboy_1978@yahoo.com

start new traditions. Maybe every chriatmas help out a family who is less unfornatuant. that will put a new light on the chirstmas spirit for you

Be spontaneous. Spend Christmas with someone else or somewhere else.