I'm grounded for 2 weeks, what should I do about it?

Since you're in college, I think the punishment kinda silly. You practically live on your own. If you were living with your mom, I would say suck it up & deal with it because it's her house...

But you're 18 years old & you don't live there. So your mom can just deal with it & you can come & go as you please. I think what it really boils down to is that your mom is probably aware that you're not her little girl anymore & wants you to stay with her. That's probably the only way she knew how, especially if you've never been grounded before. So just kinda give it some time & if you want, just do it to make her feel a little at ease. Talk to her & let her know that you're not going to be out of her life like she probably thinks.

I'm 19 & I still live with my mom. She says I'm never leaving her, but she knows I'm going to be leaving "the nest" soon, so she's doing everything in her strength to keep me at home.

Just talk to her. Be nice, don't get aggressive. Let her know that you love her, but tell her that you're 18... You're legally an adult & you don't necessarily live there anymore. I assume you live on campus & I also assume that you're not going back to your mom's after college. Most people usually get an apartment afterward, but some don't. Just talk to her & see how it goes.

I would go with 1. If not, go with 3 just to prove to her that she don't have much control over you. She can't call the cops or else they'd laugh at her. I wouldn't do 2 because that will just put a dent in her trust with you.

The temp job IS important & you have to let her know that. I would actually consider sneaking out for that. Hell, just go! It may be temporary, but it's still a JOB!!

Just be respectful, because she is after all, your mother.

WHOA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Your mother is WAYYYYYYYYY out of line, and I say that as the mother of a 17 year old high school senior and a 20 year old college sophomore. I would no more dream of "grounding" my college student than I would dream of grounding my husband!!! You left a note, and you handled the phone call well -- what more does she want? I sure wouldn't want MY child driving around at 2 AM -- at that point, the only people on the road are night workers and drunks!

When you're at college, you could be sleeping in a different dorm room every night, and twice on weekends, and she would NEVER KNOW. Trying to impose high school curfews on an young adult is a guaranteed way to alienate said young adult. Pretty soon, your mother is going to wonder why you never come home . . .

I think you've been respectful enough. It's time to say, "Look, Mom, I'm not in high school anymore -- this is riduclous. I have a job I'm responsible for and I can't just not show up because my mother thinks I'm in 9th grade!" And, personally, I'd be looking hard at Option #3 -- because you are too old to a) be "grounded" and b) sneak around behind her back.

I think, especially if you've never been grounded before, that your parents are feeling like you're growing up too fast, and want to still feel like parents. I dealt with the same thing my freshman year, and my sophomore year in college too, until I didn't come home that summer, which sent a bit of a message, because it showed that I was willing to do things on my own. I'm on scholarship though, so my family isn't paying anything for my education, so our situations may be different.

In any case, be respectful, because they are your parents, ESPECIALLY if they are paying for you schooling. But it's important for them to understand that you have been away for the semester, and that there are freedoms you are used to and have grown responsible enough to know how to handle.

Restricting you from going to work is ridiculous at what ever age, lol. That makes no sense to me. But you are definitely 18, from what you've said, you don't seem to be doing anything irresponsible, so consider yourself not grounded. Merry Christmas!!

Seems as though you have a reasonable amount of respect for them. your at a legal age to be an adult. Being grounded, in my opinion is quite absurd for an 18 year old. I'd stay with a friend for the winter break. Call them daily and tell them, that you are an adult and should not be treated like a child.

They're still your parents and are probably still paying for tuition etc, so keep the respect for them, but act with dignity.

One answer is to sit down and have an honest talk with your parents, It is Not reasonable to prevent you from going to work. However, I will bet your parents are still paying your major expenses and have the right --regardless of your age- to expect certain behaviors and respect in return. You spent the night at a man's house without checking in. I think this is the problem. Your parents see this as unacceptable behavior while you are at home, living under their roof. They cannot control what you do at college but they can while you are at home,

I would have a frank talk and apologize for my error in judgement, tell them it will not happen again while you are home. Show them you do respect them and quietly tell them that you know they did not raise you to be irresponsible so you will be going to work but other than that you are willing to abide by the grounding.

Um sweetie you're 18. You don't have to follow her rules. You're a grown woman now. Go to work because you have too and go hang out and do whatever the hell you want. No one can ground an adult.

You're 18 and in college, you don't exactly have to listen to your mom anymore...

Um, consider yourself, not grounded. YOU'RE 18! Wow.