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Au Pairs? What are the limitations?

I am a single father and have recently been offered a well paying job in the Northern Virgina area. With the high pay comes plenty of travel. I dont know the exact amount of travel, but sometimes for two weeks or so.

Anyway, I was researching nannies and au pairs online. My son is 12 years old, and doesnt have any special needs, I just cant leave him alone while I travel. I read on a website that au-pairs can only work so many hours per week and have other limitations. I really just need her to cook for him while I am gone, and make sure he does his homework, and goes to school. If I am gone for 24 hours per day, is that considered that she is working 24 hours per day?

Am I better off getting a nanny? I looked at a website, but looks like a nanny will cost me about $2000 a month. Its not out of the question, but I guess if I get a nanny her life will be pretty easy. I can cook and clean for myself and my son when I am there. But I would need someone full time because my travel is with short notice and I wouldnt want to have to search for someone new every time I had to go out of town.

Thanks

Update:

EDIT: I know about the time away thing. But since I got back from Iraq in May, I have been unemployed. I have been holding out for the job that I want that keeps me at home, but its not happening.

As far as finding a new wife... well the women I have dated seem to be worse off for me and my son than a benefit. I seem to either attract psychotic women, or something I do makes them crazy. His mother is not much better. She ran off and left us both. I need to be both a mother and father to him, but I also need to provide for him. If that means a job that travels, then thats what I have to do.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
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    Geesh wish I could afford an aupair just for the days I feel like crap, but as a dv I can' afford it on a pension blahhhhhhhhhhhh good luck in your search though and be careful who you hire. sick people come in both genders.

  • 1 decade ago

    Is this job worth that much to you? If I was in your place, I would try to spend every minute with him. I would also try to get a solid relationship (marriage) with someone. He would be better in a traditional family setting. The time you stay away from him cannot be replaced.

    Sorry I didn't answer your question. Just something for you to think about.

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