Husband is on my last nerves!?

Don't talk about it over the holidays unless you start feeling like you really need to. This is a deep issue because it keeps coming up. It's one of those things that won't likely change just by arguing about it again. If you really want to see change, wait until you can begin counseling about it. A third party will knock some sense into him. You aren't making a big deal about it, but if you say something about it again during the holidays it will only cause another fight, and likely won't make anything better.

He needs to chill out I am Italian and I am the same way as your husband. I like everything planned a head and taken care of and when something goes wrong I get mad too. However he should not curse like that if hes going to do it he can curse away at himself and leave you or anyone else out of it.

I don't think he meant anything by it towards you might have a little to do with how he was raised hard to tell. I would talk to him and just keep trying to make him understand how much this bothers you.

But a person is who they are and it's hard to change someone if he is good to you and everything else is fine. I would not worry to much about his cursing flaw and his lack of ever apologizing.

I think your making more of it than it really is. Yes, definitely have a blast with him. I dont think that is "accomodating" his behavior. I mean, he knows your mad now, and he probably knows he shouldnt of cursed. He's probably just avoiding your phone calls now because he knows your gonna ***** at him, and men cannot handle bitching, even when they deserve it x 10! Most men just shut down. So, if I were you, I'd let it go and move on. Have a happy Christmas with your husband. My husband curses like that too sometimes, when he is really upset, (ok, i admit it, so do I occasionally) its not really at the other person, just a way to say "hey, this is how stressful this situation is right now".

Honestly, we just have our say and get over it. You know, you could spend a lifetime fighting about the same thing over and over again and neither one of you would get any head way with the other. Its easier than you would think to just say, F*** it. You should try it! LOL! How bout everybody just shout out a BIG F*** IT right now. Life too short to waste on little fights.

Have a MERRY CHRISTMAS!! :)

You are right it is offensive and also inappropriate. My husband does the same exact thing. But whether you ignore it or press the issue you will feel hurt because of the way he explodes about things and he will begin to sulk or give you the silent treatment. It's technically a lose/lose situation. I would just enjoy the holidays with your family. And just hope that this "phase" of his will bite him in the behind and he will realize what he's doing.

Oh come on. You knew he cursed like that long before you married him and chose to marry him anyway.

Sounds like a stupid mis-communication and you're being a pouty baby expecting an apology from him.

He's in school, he's traveling, he's packing, he's getting on the plane, he's having to visit YOUR parents-- so by default, he was under the most stress. Why don't you just apologize to him for the misunderstanding and have a nice holiday.

Or you could hold a grudge, be pouty, make everyone feel uncomfortable and go home with an attitude.

Your choice.

Being married to someone means take both the bad and the good. I would suggest to drop it. Enjoy your time together and the Holidays. Maybe there is a middle ground you two can reach to avoid things like this in the further

I would not ruin everything just because of a word. When you guys are back to your city, tell him would you like me to curse every single time i am upset too? Then maybe do it once or twice and he will get the hint and how bad it is to curse...

I think its just a misunderstanding. After the holidays, talk with him about how his cursing makes you feel. I hope you don't have much longer in school, because long distance relationships are hard enough. Happy holidays!!!!

Ignore it. Just say in a calm voice, "When you find your big boy voice, then I will talk to you." I use it on my children and unfortunately my husband the most. Then I turn around and leave. I make sure he knows I'm not anywhere near him so he can still yell and know I can hear it. I've often have had to get in the car and leave.

I think you should ignore it. Some people curse. You don't have to like it..but its how some people express annoyance or anger. He probably doesn't even realize he is doing it. Just let it go. Also..if he did this before you got married, you should be over it.