Im gay, but i hate gays!!! ?

YES! Thank you! I am not gay, but it is nice to see that a gay man has traditional, healthy values. To be perfectly frank, I don't care if people are gay, bi, transgendered, or whatever. Just don't shove it in my face, just like I don't like straight people throwing sexuality in my face. My advice to you, sir, is try to seek out individuals such as yourself. I'm sure there are many homosexual men out there just like yourself who are genuine, normal, moral people (Yes! You can be gay and still be moral and/or religious!). Sadly, the buffoons you mentioned are the ones who get the most press and cause the general public to have a negative view of the homosexual community. Good luck, my friend.

I'm gay, and I cannot stand feminine gay men. And I'm REALLY not keen on cross-dressing gay men, but I don't hate them, it's just not my preference, - like how some straight men prefer curvy women, and other preferences etc..

You're gay, you can't change that. And however chiché it is; there's someone out there for you, probably with the same opinions even, it's not the first time I've come across a homophobic gay.

Oh, and just for the record, I'm attracted to men. That doesn't mean I want to sleep with everyone good looking guy I see. #StayClassy.

Then, in all respect, you are a hypocrite. You say you are gay ( which is 100% DISAGREEABLE on my end)

but...you hate gays? Actually, that is quite possible, because you may hate the way one gay acts, or the way one dresses.

However, I want to save you before it is to late. Get hooked up with a church man. Please stop the gay act. I know how you think it's all "cool" or "in style, but it isn't. Please heed my warning. If you choose the path of gayness, the devil will let you live a perfect life. Things will seem comfortable, and there will be no reason to leave. Until one day, the comfortable cell will close,

and it's too late. Judgement day has arrived.

LOL I'm literally one of those ***** gays. Sorry I'm better than you, I'm just kidding. But seriously you need to reevaluate your narrow minded opinion. I'm a sort of feminine guy whose been out since I have 10 years old, and a ton of masculine guys think I'm attractive. Sounds like you just hate the fact you can't get dick. Just embrace the fact everyone is different, there is no right or wrong. The fact someone acts feminine, has absolutely no impact on you. I'm not attracted to drag queens or anything, but you don't see me hating. This world so so corrupted, do yourself a favour and accept the reality you live in.

I'm gay but I find that gay men HATE me. They ignore me, laugh at me, reject me and won't even have a conversation with me. I'm told that I'm average looking, not overweight. I'm college educated. Financially secure. Was in the closet for decades, then came out 10 years ago. I've not had a date yet. I meet other gay men in team sports, bowling, biking, at the gym and so on. Forget the bars, first thing they ask is if I'm partnered, or do I have an ex. I say nope to both, then starts the rejection and attitude. I live in the NY area so its not like I'm the gay within 50 miles. I've joined dating clubs which have other men like me, barely can I get them to smile. I'm an educator so I have lots of experience with people.

You've got the wrong sort of gays there.

Find some of the right sort - the ones that don't act camp and girly and that don't sleep around but have stable, long-lasting relationships and that work hard and contribute to their community.

And you can find them, with difficulty, on the internet (but you have to search intelligently because there are a lot of people trying to make money out of the lonely gay guys about the place).

I'd begin at places like "The Mailcrew" which helps people to set up Gay-straight alliances in schools or at one or more of the websites that host gay love stories. They, on the whole, are not much in favour of bed-hopping or extreme behaviour of any kind. Try iomfats, comicality, awesomedude, deweywriter and the many links you will find on these sites.

And keep away from the male prostitutes - it isn't just HIV you can catch - their attitude to life can be catching too.

More strength to your elbow. I think you are right!

Dude I totally get what you're saying here, I'm with you 100%. I'm gay and for the longest time I thought there were no decent, non-hyper sexual gay guys out there, BUT THERE ARE. You're probably just looking in the wrong places. Grindr and gay bars are crawling with catty gays so you should probably try to avoid them. If you really want to use online dating, try okcupid, a lot of the guys on there are more genuine and looking for long term relationships.

Do some web searching too- you'd be surprised with what you can find. Don't worry not all gay guys are like that.

You don't hate gay people, you hate the gay stereotype. That is the difference. Trust me, not all gay men are like that; in fact, most aren't. Avoid the club scene, go to a bar, a bookstore, a house party... try something different. There's drama in every group of people.

This is a stereotype that gay people don't readily deserve, and you're not helping the situation by perpetuating it on an internet forum. What we need to address is why some gay people feel the need to live up to the stereotype. I have a feeling it has to do with the way gay people have been portrayed in the media. This also explains why you've got 10 year old girls dressing like they're going out to an LA club a la Lindsey Lohan. :/

There are petty, gossip oriented and back stabbing people in all walks of life, not only gays. I agree with one of the posters, maybe you just haven't been looking in the right place (a club or a bathhouse are unlikely places to find friends for life). Life is short, don't waste time and energy being disappointed, I don't think anyone in their death bed say "oh, I wish I gossiped more or back stabbed more in my life".

yes, people are back-stabbers and gossipers.

That is just life.

Just don't hang out with people you don't like.

About 10% of my friends are gay. I don't live in a gay enclave, although i am 10feet from San Francisco and can whenever I want to.

People do get stuck in their own little world and forget that the world is a big place with different ideas.

But, you should try to embrace things for what they represent. Drag Queens are big and scary. That is the point. They are also big and funny. Sometimes, they are tiny. Its camp. It mocks the world that pushes away. Drag is a great thing.

I can't believe there are some people out there just like me. I can't say it anywhere else but I guess u understand me. Like,..I feel very disgusted by how those mainstream gays around the world express themselves or whatever in public. The more they do that, the more ashamed I am to tell other people that I am gay. I feel like they are humiliating themselves. And most of them talk about sex, hot guys, and like sleeping around and...it just makes me so sick. It is like no class at all. I feel like it is more like disrespectful. I hope straight people know that all gays are not like those people. :/