Is it ok for my husband not to let me see our family shared plan phone bill?

No, that's not ok........but you shouldn't even have to raise it and discuss it...it should be a non-issue......

I'm sorry....but that's why it makes so much sense to really KNOW someone before you get married.......I mean take the time......months, years to build up that trust and really establish the rules, expectations, etc of how your relationship is going to work.

Unfortunately you have both set a precedent of lack of trust that with tarnish and lurk throughout your relationship.......

I think you are better off to acknowledge you have made a mistake getting married so quickly, and move on....find someone that you can really trust and will treat you well......

Secrets, and lies, and sneakyness are not condusive to a successful fulfilling marriage.......

Good luck.

Woah. He says you should trust him, but won't give you the proof to trust him? Sounds like he's messing around. I playfully asked my boyfriend if I could look through his phone one day and he got all weird and said, "why don't you trust me." I said that there shouldn't be anything to hide in a relationship. If he locks his phone and changed the password to the phone bill that is both of yours and you have a right to see it, he's definitely hiding something. I wouldn't believe him for a second. I waited until my guy went to the bathroom and discovered he had been sending naughty texts to TONS of girls! He was just trying to hide it from me. I would tell him that it's your phone bill too and that you have a right to see it. If he refuses to come clean, then I would dump him. You can do better!

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Here is your answer: NO. Whether he pays for the phone bill or not he WILL give you the current AND all the past bills. PRONTO. If Verizon Wireless, get the username & password immediately & print them out, check out the numbers. Tell him he has a choice: do it or get the hell out. The whole thing stinks on ice. He is bullying & manipulating you. Don't be a sucka.

A relationship is based on trust ,if there be no trust then there be no relationship. You need to tell him that if he wants you to trust him, first he must show you that what he is saying is the truth. And if he shows you not then he is not worth trusting . Then time has come to move on. For this relationship will not work out only cause great contention.

um no!!!!!!! He is locking his pc, not letting u see the phone bill and locking his cell to!!!! U tell me i wouldnt trust him period. I would throw him right back at his ex!!! Dont hang onto him girl he is just goin to keep cheating. Those r the 3 biggest things that guys will do when they cheat is to hide things, smell differant and there time schedule will be off.

If he had nothing to hide, he would let you have full access to see everything, without a moment's hesitation.

Don't you think he is being sneaky and hiding something?

I'm sorry, but I wouldn't trust this guy as far as I could throw him.

And if you don't have trust and commitment in a relationship, well...need I say more?

For things to work he will need to earn your trust back, he can only do that by allowing you the information you need to be sure he isnt hiding anything. He is right you should trust him but he broke your trust so now he has to pay the consequences and that means taking the bull bythe horns and proving to you he is trustworthey.

having been married for 10 years, my wife and i have no secrets from each other! first of all i don't get the whole online love affair thing but that's me! if your man is constantly texting ex's and other females you need to ask yourself how committed and loyal he is to you! stand up for yourself!! marriage should be a shared experience and secrecy and messing around with others is not commitment or loyal! maybe you would be better off without him which would give you your self respect

that doesn't sound okay if you are married then he should have nothing to hide. it sounds like he may be talking to his ex or another girl and he doesn't want you to find out. if he wants you to trust him then he should give you acces to everything and prove to you that he's not cheating or talking to other females. never give your spouse too much freedom or they will take advantage of it. i have a friend who doesn't check out her husbands phone and lets him go out every night and now he has three girls pregnant and now she regrets giving him so much privacy. give him freedom but not too much.......good luck

No. He may not like being spied on, but if he had nothing to hide and he was serious about working things out, he would give you what you asked for.