should i marry him if he locked up?

I had a friend who tried to wait for her man to come out of jail....once he got out. He was a changed man. He didn't like the same things he did when he went in. He changed his religion, his friends & his personality. He dropped her soon after getting out..for a muslim women that his "brothers" set him up with while he was still locked up. He never told her because, she was still sending him money & clothes. Now after wasting 6 1/2yrs. she's all alone.

-But it only took 6mos. an he was locked back up!

JUST THINK ABOUT IT FIRST!!!

Only you know him well, and can answer this question.

Personally, I wouldn't marry anyone who has committed a serious enough crime to get up to 15 years in prison. But that is just a personal preference.

By the way, he will likely have to do 7-10 years before he would be eligible for parole, and that is if he had maintained good behavior while he is in there. If you are unwilling to wait that long, you will have to ask yourself whether you even love him enough to be considering marriage to this man.

15 years is a lifetime during which you will change and so will he and his baby.

Your life should continue. He committed a crime and is being punished for it. Were you an accomplice to the crime? Was your baby? Should you do 15 years for him?

If you do not marry him what will your options be?

Will you move on to better things with your baby?

You really need to sit down and answer these questions before you make up your mind.

Yes you love him now but in 10 to 15 years you will be a different person and he will possibly expect you to be the same girl he left behind. Can you be that girl?

Good luck with your decision and your life.

There is no reason to marry him if he is in prison! His reason would be to keep you under lock and key (excuse the pun). It will affect you the rest of your life. Don't do it. If you still love him when he gets out, give him a year or so to prove he can make it on the outside, get a job, be responsible, etc then think about it.

That depends on what he did. Did he molest a child? If so then NO you dont wait for him. Was he wrongly accused? If so then thats totally different. As most the others said, only you can decide. There is a woman at my work whose husband will be gone for 10 more years, she is raising their son alone, she seems ok with it. Will you be?

Best of luck to you,

God Bless.

Honey No, not unless you want to spend the rest of your life waiting for him to get out time and again. Have you even questioned where the money came from that paid for the house and car? Not to mention how is his attorney being paid, and who is paying his attorney. Maybe you should BEFORE you leap into this fire.

You are the only one that can answer this question, but if you love him then yes you should marry him, but be prepared if you have to wait for him. Don't allow them to lock up your love too. You have to do what feels right to you. Good luck to you.

Only you can answer that. If you think it is worth it...or better yet worth it for your child????? How will this affect the baby later in life. I would wait it out and if you really think that's the right decision....however if he's in jail what's a ring on your finger gonna do?????

How long ago was he arrested and when was he convicted? How did they already sentence him if he was arrested 3 weeks ago? Not likely. If you love him wait for him.

honestly, the deciding factor for me would be why he is in jail. if he did something to hurt someone (especially you) or something drug-related, i would say no. you are a good person for sticking by him, but you and your baby deserve someone who is not a criminal. i realize that i don't know the details, but the decision is ultimately up to you. best of luck to you and your child!