Would doing it with a guy make me more comfortable doing it with a girl?

Boom, I'm gonna tell you straight up from one bisexual transman to another:

Having sex with a man is in no way at all the same as having sex with a woman.

I lean more towards guys, and if you're bummed about being in bed with a girl... being with a guy is seriously going to muck you about. I find that interacting with my partner's penis is only helpful for as long as I'm in contact with it, and even then it reminds me that my phantom limb is only formed like that in my mind. And dudes notice when you're only hanging around for what's hanging in their pants... some don't mind, but who really wants to be treated like a sex toy?

Really the trick is to find a partner who gets you and gets your needs. Breaking through the language barrier in the bedroom was a huge step for me, and I'm still working through the motions. Teaching a partner to not touch you like they would touch a girl can take time, but is a serious help.

If you're in the mood for man on man loving without an ulterior motive, then have your fun with another guy... but don't fall into the falsehood that it will make it easier for you to be with women.

Hope that helps some man...

I do to a certain extent. It really depends how comfortable I am with the guy and what sort of relationship I have with them. Also, the content and context are a factor. If we are together as a couple I have absolutely no problems with it. If it is with a guy friend who starts talking about it first then I'll openly discuss it with him. I won't open a conversation with it or anything. I don't think I'd ever want to talk about sex with any family members (cousins, dad, brother, uncles, etc) about it... so creepy! I feel the most comfortable speaking about it if I'm with a guy if we're a couple. I've only been in one semi-serious relationship so I am not for sure on that one. The next would be my best friends who are girls. Then comes the close guy friends.

This is a tough question. Only you can know how you feel. Stick with partners who know you are transitioning and accept you the way you are. Spend the time experimenting with those individuals because they are going to be accepting and nonjudgmental you will be most comfortable with them and yourself. Don't worry about giving and/or receiving - every relationship is different and every person has their own needs, desires and abilities. You asked about being with a male versus a female the first time... Depends on what you mean by that, if you mean clitoral/vaginal or anal. If you are thinking of clitoral/vaginal I would skip it all together if you are not even comfortable masturbating. Don't expect your physical body to override your emotional being. As far as learning what a real penis "does during sex", exposure doesn't teach you any more than observation (ie porno) and the only way to know what you will need to do with your anatomy once you have transitioned, is by practice postoperative. Give yourself a little break, you don't have to do anything you are uncomfortable with. Sex isn't about the act it's about the pleasure!

I love Tye! He rocks, but like everybody else transpeople are all different. What works for me or Tye might not work for you. Dysphoria is a betch whatever it takes to to overcome those crazy delusions I'm all for it. So if it makes my boy feel better to get it on with his buddy I'm all for it. I used to cut myself down there every 28 days, I'm not proud of that, I'm just saying I understand how my boy feels and though I don't feel the same about having sex with women as he does with men. I do get how it helps him overcome his dysphoria. We all have our ways of dealing with our demons. That's just his way.

i guess i dont understand how having sex with a guy would help you have sex with a girl. lol think of it this way.. you can live out every guys dream of having lesbian sex. (im not trying to offend but it seems like every guy i know is obsessed with lesbian sex)

I have a friend who is FtM who uses a strapon with his girlfriend and he finds it very satisfying. I do not know if this would be applicable to you or not, its just a suggestion

i dont think i would do a guy just for that reason. but if you're attracted to them and want to have sex with one, then i guess itd be fine. im not sure if it would help though

It probably would give U a better understanding, thus enhancing your ability to give & receive pleasure !

It could help...you may not know exactly what it feels like until you touch it so to speak...

My experiences with women helped me minimally when it came to gay men so I don't know what to expect.

imagining your clitoris is a penis should help. that's doable for a pre-op.

i hope that helps.