My wife refuses to ask me for help and gets angry when I don't notice she needs help. Is this my fault?

It might help if you just sit down and talk to her, tell her lets talk about some things as I want a happy marriage and I sense a lot of anger from you toward me. Maybe she can suggest something. It is hard to read other peoples minds.....you are right in that feeling for sure!

Just a guess here but sounds like she wants you to be on top of things...like why should she have to say anything in the first place you should know that the laundry needs to be done. This isn't exactly your fault she just is assuming that you should know the laundry needs to be done. Why don't you take the initiative and do the laundry first before the wife gets doing it... I bet this will solve the situation. BTW you sound like a nice man with a wife with a communication problem.

It's called passive-aggressive behavior. I would suggest counseling for her anger management issues because it will not get better with time.

Every family has to work out how chores are done. Laundry is one of the most thankless. People don't notice it as a chore unless they have no clean clothing. Consider helping her with part of the duty (collecting the clothing and bringing it to the washing area WHEN SHE NEEDS IT THERE). Folding stuff while watching the football game.

Okay, your wife seems a little bit passive aggressive to me, but I know from being a wife myself that sometimes it's nice if I don't have to ask for help and my husband takes some initiative in offering it. Yes, it seems perfectly clear that if someone desires help that they just ask for it... definitely easier. I'd just talk with her about it, tell her you'd like to help if she needs it but you don't know when she does. Once in awhile offer to help straight off the bat or do a load of laundry yourself when she's gone or doing something else. That could be something else that may be worsening the situation, there are a lot of things to do to keep a home running and cleaned up; pick a different chore like the dishes or vacuuming or sweeping or mopping and just get to it without saying anything.

Ok, she is thinking why should she have to ask you? Does anyone ask her to do laundry? Nope! She knows it needs to be done just like cooking, cleaning, taking care of the kids and going to work. My husband says the same thing. But the way I look at it if you see dishes that need to be washed or the garbage needs to be taken out you should do it because it needs to be done. Not because I asked you to do it. Do you go to work each day and just sit there and stare into space till your boss tells you want to do? I doubt it, you know what you are to do. Same thing as home lol Good Luck!!

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Dear Superhuman,

Sometimes women get grumpy and we lose the ability to ask for help. Sometimes we'd like our husband/fiance to offer help without having to pitch a fit.

I do not like whipping the clothes. They often rebel by getting lost - ie your socks.

I feel badly when I feel like I cannot do it all and you think I am SuperWoman. I am hurt that you cannot observe that I need help. All the same, sometimes I need to be asked if I need assistance.

The clothes need you. I need you. The dishes in the sink are calling your name...

Love,

SuperWife ;)

Yes, you are supposed to read her mind. How long have you been married? How can you not know this?

Don't wait for her to ask you to help. Next time walk over and say, "I'm helping. Tell me what to do." She should like that.

Yep! Your faultfor not being a mind reader. Next time you are masterbating, get pissed about her not reading your mind and sucking your dick. Maybe she will get the hint.

mate if she is doing something ..then she want you to be doing something as well.. best thing is to say your bizzy .. just now ..put the tv in the den .. so she cant see you .. mate ..just stay out of her way ..until she call you then you be right.. ok