Why did my wife call me manipulative?

Jack, my dear friend, don't you dare allow that selfish wench to lay once ounce of guilt at yor feet. She is simply being selfish.

Imagine, a woman who can't handle a Job, Kids and a Husband...

Heck, just the other day my wife tried to tell me she was worn out because she had to pull one double last week. I had actualy taken the hchildren to the beach for the afternoon and took a nap under the sun, do you know how unbelievably tiring that is? I get home, and she expected me to actually take them to some place to eat pizza or something because she was too tired to cook a meal.. after I hadsacrficed my afternoon to give her a break, she gave me the cold shoulder becaueI didn't fall for her little trick...

You can't let her be lazy nor lay guilt at your feet...Be the man of the househod..

Manipulative might be the wrong word. "Self-Centered" would be. Your entire speech here is all based upon the presumption that you are completely in the right, and she is the one who is solely responsible for what has happened, and it is entirely her responsibility to make the situation change. I'm sorry buddy, but relationships are a two-way street, and almost anything that happens is going to be partially your fault. If you're feeling neglected - and your flowing prose does nothing to disguise the fact that you're pissed about having blue balls - you should first try showing some attention to her that isn't sexually motivated. There is an unfortunate paradox in the sexes when it comes to the physical - generally, women need to feel loved to have sex, whereas men need sex to feel loved. It sounds like you're both neglecting each other's needs. She needs some emotional connection, you need some physical. You give her one, and it's more likely that she'll give you the other. I'm sorry if you want her to do the work - but, the longer you two play emotional chicken with each other, the harder it's going to be to bridge the gap. Be the man, take one for the team, and get her some flowers. Don't expect anything out of her for a bit, let her "no's" or "I'm busy's" stand without protest. Keep asking - never stop asking - but don't complain when you don't get what you want. Because that's what makes her call you manipulative.

I can see that you are an educated person by the way you express yourself, however you are ignorant in the way you treat people. Your wife is trying her hardest to maintain a household, children, and a relationship with someone who feels they should be the center of the universe. I don't think you are manipulative, I think you are just full of yourself. You should be thanking God you found someone who would put up with your bs for so long. How dare you say see is a failure as a mother just because she does not kiss your a** on a daily basis. Perhaps if she could stay home, and not work, then she would have more energy to be the wife you desire. Frankly if I were your wife (thank God I am not) I would have left you a long time ago!

Your heart is in the right place, but i think that you're missing something here- she told you that she's stressed and busy, which is why she cannot show you as much attention as she would like. After she told you that, you have to realize that in order for you to get the attention you want, you need to help her manage the children, the household, and whatever else you can help with to take some of the weight off of her shoulders. It isn't fair for you to demand that she make changes without making changes yourself.

Also, do not bring your friends into this- it isn't fair to tell someone that their friends will think of her badly if she doesn't show you more attention. That will only make her uncomfortable around your friends and resent you for making her feel worse.

I guess my bottom line is that she isn't the only one that needs to put in more of an effort- you need to put yourself in her shoes and help her with the stresses of her life so that she is able to give more to your relationship.

If she doesn't make the effort, then she doesn't know Jack. It's as if *any* attempt to communicate would be called manipulative! My suggestion is ignore it, relationships are always better when people just stuff things down and move along as if nothing were bothering them. Then at least your kids will understand that human relationships just aren't that important.

i can only hope this is trolling, because if this is real, then this you are a horrible horrible husband, and someone who is not just manipulative, but also blinded to your own inadequacies. what do you do to be there for your wife? she will find it far easier to support you if you also support her in kind, and it does not sound like this is something you are or will do. you talk about loving her, but your love comes with conditions, and i question your loyalty. i am very sad for your wife, and the unrealistic expectations you have placed on her.

you expect way too much of her she has a life too other than just you u know her job and your kids do come firrst b4 ur bj needs grow up and realize that u cant always come first oh and grow some balls

Break out the leather, hairy-chested one.

You can't take this insubordination and let it grow into full-blown rebellion. Stop it in its tracks right now.

And please send me an email with the results based on my recommendations.

*puppy-dog eyes*

Might I suggest hiring a cute willing house keeper? That would solve everything including the cobwebs and dirty windows (bonus).

(((((Jack)))))

Cheese gives me indigestion too.