If you forgive someone do you really forget?

You're not supposed to forget. "Those who forget history are doomed to repeat it". Forgiveness allows YOU to move forward...it has nothing to do with the other person.

"To Error is Human, To Forgive Divine." If you forgive someone, most likely it is out of the want or need. When people do, they mean it. Otherwise they wouldn't forgive at all. We never forget things that have hurt us, or caused a problem. It is part of the Human Condition to nit pick our problems through life. Thus, we can forgive and forget, but we never truly forget.

It is all a matter of who the person was, and how they hurt us.

I think forgiving someone is such a personal, difficult thing to do that we rarely forget. I remember some key verses from my religious upbringing that made me think of forgiving and forgetting:

"I, even I, am He who blots out your transgressions for My own sake; and I will not remember your sins. Put Me in remembrance; let us contend together; state your case, that you may be acquitted."

Isaiah 43:25-26

"As far as the east is from the west, so far has he removed our transgressions from us." Psalm 103:12

"Their sins and lawless acts I will remember no more."

Hebrews 10:17

I use these quotes not to promote religion (in fact, I am agnostic), but to highlight how human it is to forgive but not forget. Forgetting is so unnatural that only a superbeing, like the God figure, could do it! But for us humans, is it even desirable to forget what we have forgiven? To me, it's important that we not forget our pains and sorrows because they teach us important lessons about life, about each other. If we were to forget the experience, we also forget what makes us human, what makes the person who hurt us human. As the saying goes "To err is human." And the reason, as the saying goes, that "to forgive is divine" is because it is so difficult and contrary to our selfish nature.

Do we really forget? I don't think so. But I do think time heals wounds and allows us to view things with a clearer head. So it's possible that we can forgive more and more with time and maturity, so that finally, we are at peace with who and where we are and were, that we essentially let go of the badness and embrace the goodness of the past experience.

I think some people NEVER forget just because of their own memory paths - it's not possible for them to do so.

Personally, forgiving and forgetting comes pretty easily for me and I SELDOM hang on to the hurt and I do forget easily and often along with my forgiveness. I also think it has to do with the genuineness of your forgiveness though too.

now this is a touchy subject, you can never fully forgive someone untill you forget, but forgetting is the hardest thing. if someone has done you wrong and you don't forget it then it will come up later no matter what and it WILL sway your decision in one way or another. personally i have a hard time forgetting when someone has done me wrong, i may move on but i can never truly forgive untill the matter is completely forgotten

....I don't believe you honestly really ever forget anyone honestly...you just simply learn to eventually mentally supress the need and ideas to think about these individuals alternatively...what else?

This is difficult to do though when you are presently mentally obsessed with the thoughts of someone who's hurt you recently seriously!

People get "stuck with heartache" over lost loves consequentially.

We remember current people more frequently though then old lost friends neighbors and lovers otherwise...sound cool?

It'll do you no good to sit around waisting time dysfunctionalizing mentally over hurtful people and spiteful bitter lovers reasonably....agreed?

Forgive all people that have trespassed and transgressed upon you....what else?

Move forwards...not backwards...cause the past and God and LIfe aren't gonna be sitting around waiting and collecting dust for ya reasonably.....get moving..ya hear?

I do really forgive on somethings

like I told my mother side of the family I'm sorry but I really dont really forgive them because they did me really bad. I hope that answer you question and you are welcome

Eventually, after years and years. But do you ever really forgive them, or do you just pretent to?

No u don't becuz there is always this fear that they might hurt you again

so no you don't forget

it depends on how bad they phucked up. I haven't spoke to one of my ex friends in almost 10 yrs