What to do when your dad is dating someone you disapprove of?

I was in a very similar situation earlier this year. My mum passed away a few years ago and my dad started dating again. He started getting serious with her, she spent a lot of time at his place and he seemed to be happy.

But I was really disappointed when I met her. She was a heavy drinker, had no job, no assets, no drivers license, was uneducated and 'rough around the edges'. I too thought my dad could do a lot better. He was obviously smitten and I was glad to see he was happy, but was secretly hoping he would wake up to himself because I couldn't stand her.

Whenever he would say something like "She had a bit to drink last night" I would say "Look, she seems really nice, but I hope she doesn't make a habit of embarrassing you like that." Or "It's a shame she drinks so much, because otherwise she seems to make you happy."

Luckily for me, she continued to make an ass of herself and he realised he wanted better than that. But he realised it on his own without me forcing the issue. And our relationship remained well intact because I stayed supportive of him. And because he had had a negative experience with that relationship, he was more choosy the next time and has now found an awesome lady.

Its a hard situation because you don't want to put her down or tell him you think she's awful, because he will jump to her defence, and he might feel resentful towards you for interfering or making him choose. Sometimes people will stay in a relationship that that's not right for them just to try and prove you wrong. It's better to handle things a bit more tactfully. Good luck :)

You do have a right to be worried, and it is very good of him to have your best interests at heart why you were growing up and at important times in your life when you were in education and not to effect that.

You are being very level headed about this, so don't think people will think you are jealous at all.

Sounds like she knows what side her bread is being buttered, and is trying to get her feet under the table, and be finacially secure - hope he may see this, and hope he does not get taken for a ride in the long run.

It is doubtful that she loves him at all, she sounds a reall user and maybe he feels his kids have grown up enough that it is time for him to

start doing something about it as she sounds a real wrong 'un and will hurt your dad very bad in the long run.

You could try and get in contact with your dads friends, neighbours or work colleagues to see there opion about it..and maybe start from there.

Just put the facts forward as your done here

- But take into consideration your dad maybe lonely ?

- Sure he has yous in his life, but love makes you feel alive again sometimes

- He might truely be happy ?

Ask him to take the time to really get to know her, and say your just concerned for him as you are.

Sit him down and talk to him about yur concerns about this woman. He will listen to you, hes your flesh and blood!

he will soon see what you see, and hopefully not date her anymore...

i have similar problems, but dont make it out as if he canthave anyone... he wont like you telling him who he can or cant date.!

hope i have helped you!

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good luck!

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Try talking with your dad about it or try finding a better girl for him

you should have a heart to heart talk to your dad, tell him that she's no good for him. do wats best for your dad...explain to him ur thoughts on the situation till he listens. point out everything you've noticed about her

Be very upfront with your Dad. After that, don't mention it again, because if he chooses her anyway, you have to accept it and get along with this person.

well what i would do is tell my dad that i have a probolym with the girl and tell him whats on my mind.....but then again i am very outgoing and speak my mind but GOOD LUCK!

P.S. hope that helped!

Well,first,tell him how you feel about all of this.It will be hard,but at least try.Tell him you also love him,no matter what.It will be better to start with,first.

it is time to sit your dad down and talk. explain why she is not good for him, say you are way too good for her.