Why does my wife get so sensitive over my correcting her in public?

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It is lost on my wife how much love it takes for me to try and help her improve. <<~~~ "It is lost" ...lacks better grammar

EDIT*** Overuse of the conjunction "AND".

EDIT** I do my best to let her know just how badly a form she cuts in public, and make certain that she understands the humiliation I feel that others know her to be partnered with me, my poor, barely literate wife.....

Whoa! Is that long-winded or what?!

EDIT***As an Australian, I cannot look too favourably on the barbarity of the public school system here, the product of which my wife is.<~~~ Seriously? Get a thesaurus. Secondly, shouldn't partial phrases include " ;" instead of ","? Maybe that's my own misconception.

Seriously, dude. If you are trying to impress us with your great knowledge, this isn't working for you. You sound like a complete nincompoop. To be honest, this seems like a joke. (but thanks for the points!) If you are honestly degrading your wife publicly, you don't deserve her. You don't love her. You should find someone that appreciates this kind of behavior.

You can buy education but you can't buy decency nor common sense

I have been married to a great woman for the last 20 years or so, I would always tell someone a story and she would correct, how when I tell you that what she is correcting has "nothing to do with the out come of the story".. I might say that I was talking to this girl and she had on a "green" dress... My wife would say.. "no honey it was red"... ok but what does that have to do with the story? Nothing. This went on for about 2 years.. I stop telling story because I felt that she was making me look and feel stupid. Then one day she ask me what I don't tell story's when she is around? I told he and she started to cry, she did not know that she was hurting me, she was just trying to help me get the story right. Now to this day, if I tell the story wrong she will just smile and sometimes I tell her the same story over and over, but she just smile a acts like it is the first time that she heard it. I even ask her when I am telling a story to her if she heard and and all she says is " No babe what happen?" That is what a being a team is, you don't put your mate down, and you really NEVER do it in public.Your wife is your mate and not a dog.. STOP trying to train her and maybe if you respect her and love her, that might help both of you. If you stop and look at some of the answer that everyone is giving you, you might just be glad she is still with you. Most here would have left you or slap you upside your head. Try being a real husband and less of a jerk. You just might still be able to stay married.

Wow! I don't know where to begin.

How did you fall in love with a high school graduate in the first place? After all, did she not speak thy word the same way before as she does now? Yet, somehow she was able to get you to see behind her "improper" use of the English language and make you the intellect fool marry her? How did she do that?

If you like to correct people in public, may I suggest working as a teacher. Otherwise don't correct people in public. It''s rude and obnoxious to correct someone in front of others. May I suggest an etiquette book for you, please?

And you are just a riot with your medieval conceptions about women, "I understand that the female capacity is more rightly focused on domestic concerns, which is why most women are content to let their husbands carry on discourse for them."

Times have changed, oh like for the last 50 years. So, you may speak and write eloquently but you sure have no clue what you are talking about. Women are educated. Women are breadwinners too, darling.

What are you trying to improve? Is she becoming the speaker of the house? Is she preaching to the land? Is she going on a safari expendition and giving tours where she has to speak in front of people? If you say no, then I don't think she needs improvement. Let her be. Obviously, you tried to "correct" her and she is not interested.

Let it go!

It is a man with having values in wrong places for marriage to having humiliation for the wife in public setting. How much education can the university give to a man when he has not seeing the condition of the heart is greater than swiftness with a pen. A person like you might saying to me that my education is not good for intelligence because I have English as second language. Not a wife or any person can say a university is good thing if it will teach a student to show ridicule at people with less education and not speaking best sentences every time. Maybe the wife has better qualities outside of a textbook for you to loving her and choose for marriage.

I think that either this is a joke, and you made this whole thing up? or you really have some issues? If indeed you are sincere with your egotistic over the top opinions of your wife, then you had best prepare for this marriage to be short lived, as she will grow tired and start having resentments towards you, not to mention the ill effects it will have on you, you appear to be the type of guy who married this woman out of sheer control, you knew when you married her what her character was all about, you knew she lacked a education, you were aware of her misuse of language etc, but you married her anyway, and you married her not for love, but merely to dominate, I know all about people with your type personality and character, you have a big ego but lack personal self esteem, and it is your ego that is judging her and verbally insulting her, however it is your lack of self esteem that that makes you continue your poor actions towards your wife, It takes a real man to stand up and say to himself and others that he is flawed, that he is not perfect, it's quite a humbling experience, it is a experience that you need to venture through to get from A to B, you need to own up and understand that having self confidence is a wonderful thing, but having a huge ego is not, and you need to get your ego in check soon, or you will run this marriage right into the ground. Make a appointment with a counselor and get some therapy. Good Luck

A truly educated person never feels the need to correct others. Only semi-educated people who want to feel superior tend to do these sorts of things.

Your ignorance shows every time you open your mouth and try to correct her. If you had any true form of intelligence, you'd not feel the need to look down on others. Your entire posts proves your lack of intelligence, while trying to in-part that you had some form of education. A very lacking education, I might add. Your ineptitude is all that is showing.

If you had half the intelligence that you try to claim, you'd quickly see that you are controlling and trying to ruin her self esteem. You'd know that you weren't worthy of her and would allow her to go find happiness with someone more worth while. Someone more on her level, one far more superior than you could ever hope to become.

You don't even seem to have the intelligence to comprehend that you do not love her, but only wish to hurt her in hopes that she never gets enough self esteem up to leave you.

I'll pray for her that she sees the truth in you and is able to leave you without too much heartache. That she can find someone with comprehension skills, intelligence and a true education.

Your cavalier ideas-set and swarthy opinion brings forth the question as to why you married your spouse interior the 1st place. If assisting her became your significant concern an knowledgeable individual could have reached the logical and rational reasoning that public grievance isn't the suitable direction of action. So, except you're particularly lacking in perception or basically bored and wanting some form of entertainment this question jewelry as fake because of the fact the theory that a woman could marry you interior the fist place. My suggestion could be which you treatment your boredom with yet another extra interesting form of thinking, or prodding, to the masses at great. Sexist and in any different case cavalier comments are for the lowly and unrefined.

Very poor manners to correct someone in public. Shows you have no class. You are correcting her because you are embarrassed. She is not embarrassed at all. YOU are embarrassed. You have to correct her to show your friends that you are smart. Sad that you care more about what they think of you than how your wife feels. If you care that much about her grammar then you should have picked a different wife.

I'm American and I never use words like aint or double negatives or whatever. I graduated from high school and college. You learn from your environment. If her parents didn't know any better they I'm sure she doesn't either. It takes tiime to break a bad habit. For years I pronounced pinot grigio incorrectly. My husband corrected me in private and I got mad at first. Only because he let me go so long saying it the wrong way. Correct her in private next time. Let her know what she said and help her through it. Respect her feelings more than your ego.

U just answered your own question.U dont understand the sensitivenss of an american woman.Dude its all women not just an american one.I think what u need to do is go back to whatever the hell country u came from because obviously no woman would put up with your stupid,rude,insensitive,think u know it all *** and that is why u came here to find another woman.Well if she was smart she wouldnt put up with that **** she would ship your *** right back where u came from.This is your wife have more respect for her than putting her down.That is the prob.with you foreign guys u simply do not nor will u ever know how to talk to,treat or respect a woman.

Seekee

A single individual has nothing to do with the schools in the U.S. The problem there is a small cross section of students choose not to conform and it then reflects badly on their respective schools. Quite a number of youngsters seem to overly use slang and have poor role models to gain social use of language and manners. That doesn't include your lack of respect for the one that is supposedly the most important person in your life. You sure didn't marry her to impose your skills in the English language. She must have something you admire. I can only guess.

If it is that much a problem then divorce her and find someone with an ego like yours.