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What is wrong with my head? Its so confused?

I'm on my school dance team and when I go there their is a girl that i like and we'll say her name's "Ashlee". When I talk to Ashlee i think to myself. Man, she's beautiful and I want to date her. I often have fantasies about her also. Then the next minute i look across the room and I see this guy "Jimmy" and think to myself, he's sexy. I don't have fantasies about him though. But why do I think he is sexy. When I fantasies about people it sometimes men and sometimes women. So how do I know if I'm gay or straight. I sometimes think that bisexual is just greedy and confused gay people so I don't want to call myself that. Do all teens have these emotional and crazy thought or am I just different.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
    Favorite Answer

    A couple things:

    1. Being bisexual is not "being greedy," it's just finding more/different things turn you on. This misconception that bisexuals are just greedy sluts is a condescending fallacy. Bisexuality is not a pitstop to being gay, it's an entire state unto itself, and there is nothing wrong with it.

    2. Men can find each other attractive. I know lots of 100% straight people who can recognize what makes other people of their gender sexy. It doesn't mean you're attracted TO them, it just means you understand what people see in them. There is also nothing wrong with this - it is completely normal.

    3. If you're still in school, your hormones are still raging, and you're young enough that you may not have a "set" sexuality yet - if such a thing even exists. Just BE for now, and don't try so hard to figure out what you like - you'll know someday.

    Source(s): Bisexual, been there.
  • Its probably because your on the DANCE TEAM!....and also, lots of people are bisexual, so just get over the fact that its "greedy" or whatever. Everybody's different but there are people like you out there.

    Good luck w/ whateverr.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    your straight you probably just think that coz you want to look like him so Ashlee notices you don't worry about it im 95% your straight. Think to yourself would you kiss him???

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Man, you are straight ok, not gay or anything else, it seems as if you are being jealous of this guy. or simply his just good looking and your brain thinks his looking that its. but in the other side being gay isn't that bad. like you will get abused and stuff like that but overall people seem fine with it.

  • 1 decade ago

    I wouldn't drive yourself up the wall thinking your crazy. Both women and men look at the same sex & opposite sex and think sexual thoughts. It is normal for this, especially in your teenage years. Don't be biased against people of other sexual orientations...you don't know what they've been through or where they came from, so really your only being prejudice. People have mentioned that some of the same sex are hot or beautiful or sexy, etc. and there is nothing wrong with that. Be open minded & only form opinions once you are about 25 - 30 years old. The latest research suggests that the age of adolescence should be pushed back to 30 because your brain throws a switch at 30 & you change your thinking. That is when you become an adult (and it applies to both male & female)!

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    You're weird. But if you want a picture of me to help you jerk off let me know.

    There is nothing wrong with being bi. It doubles your chance of getting a date on a Saturday night.

  • 1 decade ago

    You are weird. Most people find themselves attracted to one gender. Bisexuality is rare... especially in men. Go talk to a psychiatrist.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Umm, i dont really know about others, but for me, I like guys. However, If i see a girl who is absolutly beautiful, i sometimes imagine what it would be like to kiss her and other stuff...but i would not consider myself to be gay or bi. Honestly, if you are attracted to both guys and girls, then yea, you might be bi-sexual (obviously)...but also, your a teenager and your just thinking things through!!

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    You didnt say how old you are, but honestly its pretty normal in your teenage years to be confused like this. On the othe rhand, you may just think the other guy is good looking - I look at some lads sometime and i tihnk "Hes a good looking guy" - Nothing sexual is meant by it, its just what i think.

  • 1 decade ago

    We all do it.Even girls.

    Like, sometimes we could be talking to the hottest guy in the room, and look over and see a pretty girl (not in a les way, just like a "i want to look like her") way. :]

    The song, "I kissed a girl" by katy perry.

    Is a song about experiencing with the same sex.

    Don't worry about it, but if you continue to have these thoughts about men, you might be bi.

    Hope this helps<3

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