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which one do you think is worse?

Whats worse...being pregnant at a young age or knowing you are going to have to provide for the baby when neither you nor the father has a job?

My fiance and I really want to start having kids but I'm only 17 and this would be my first child. I don't know if I am afraid of having my first child at this age or if I am afraid of having to provide for it when neither me nor my fiance has a job. We are currently looking for a job for for both of us but its tough. I just don't want to struggle to raise a baby. What do you think?

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  • sojurner420
    1 decade ago
    Favorite Answer

    ANY TWO people can make a baby, BUT it takes maturity, self awareness and the means to care for that baby to be decent parents. This is not going to be a play doll, but a living breathing human being.

    You know whats right and wrong. I can tell by your last sentence in your question. DO THE RIGHT THING. You are young you have plenty of time to have a baby. Besides both of you have a lot of maturing to do.

    Source(s): self
  • Dew
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    Having a baby at a young age and Not being able to pay for it and care for it.Please wait till you go to college or find a good paying job and have some money in the bank.I had My Son when I was very young.

    Source(s): Mom of 3
  • c1999tigger
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago

    if you are 17yo and getting married???? 1st am not saying nothing about that one. but as for the child thing keep in mind that all the freedom you have now will no longer have for 18years. plus,you will never have a single meal alone again, no more time to hang out with friends, or just enjoy the freedom of being in your 20's. take my advise just hold off the whole child thing and keep in mind when you eat right now your family is fed. get my point

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Get a solid job first. If you can, I would also strongly suggest college first. Once you have a kid, he/she will trump all of your time. Having a child is great, and beautiful, but only if you can support the little tyke.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Honey forget having kids for now. Love will last (if he is realy in love with you). Go out get educated and enjoy your younger years.

    You can have a career or sleepless nights and diapers, it's your choice.

    Don't make the baby suffer because your or your boyfriend can't make it in life for now.

    LiL 1

    Source(s): Had sister who went through this
  • grey
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago

    whats worse...having a child with someone who will probably may not be able to be with you in the next years because he dose not have a job and just a kid himself or being pregnant with a kids child? do something for me and your family and just enjoy your youth....life will come at you soon enough lil girl...take care..

  • Laura M
    1 decade ago

    i think you should wait until u are completely confident in yourself that you and your fiancee are ready to have a child. if you think you are ready now then go for it. but otherwise wiat till u r both ready

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