how can i stop being so hard on myself?

Find what makes you happy in life. Start working at accomplishing your goals. Use laughter as a pick me up and love as motivation to what life offers. Remember to always live your life to the fullest.

Oh boy. This is a hard one, girl. The whole "you have to love yourself before you can truly love another" saying is flawed in itself. It is very hard to look past your own flaws. This will honestly take some time. Realize this... you are you. You can only be you. I believe that confidence in yourself is derived from realizing that in the end, after everyone and anyone else, all you have is you. Look at what is good about yourself, if you must, make a list, like Pros and Cons. Look at and really study the pros you wrote about yourself, and understand those are the great things about you! Then look at the cons. What can you do to fix those cons? Try to write out solutions to those "cons" about yourself. I have had to do this a few times for myself in the past. But it really worked.

I have this exact problem... Well hang out with people that make you feel good. Make a list of things that you love about yourself...and remember those things. And trust me it might sound stupid but it works. And maybe if there is something about yourself that is really bothering you try to change it. For insstance if you think you are chunky try going for a run and eat healthier, if you think you have a problem with acne try proactive, if you think you are a ugly person have fun and give yourself a makeover!!!!

Just be positive, confident, watch a show like TYRA, get a good role model, a good person to look up to would be some one who excepts themselvs for who they are.

Everyone is always there worst enemies, we pick ourselves apart from what we hear, or what we see. Just remeber NOBODY is perfect, and love yourself for who you are!. Dont ever let anyone tell you your not good enough because you are. Everybody has a different opnion, so why should you listen to it? You shouldnt. The only person that matters in your life is you! Think about all the good things youve accomplished and people youve helped. HAve faith in yourself, because if you put your mind to it you can do anything and everything!

good luck :D

There is a Beavis and Butthead joke in this question somewhere.

To answer your question, the happiest people on the planet are so because they have low expectations. It's impossible to stop caring 100% what people think about you -- everybody closes the door when they go poo poo -- but a lack of confidence is a symptom of somebody who puts too much stock in what other people think. Just be yourself.

Enjoy you life now as it is. Do not wish that youve had things that you dont. Like what you have and be happy with what you get. Do not go down on yourself all the time. Loosen up and feel happy with everyone, and most importantly yourself. Talk to people and share your ideas or feelings with close ones, like your family and friends. I hope I helped. Have a nice time alright. And remember love yourself for who you are, and not what you want yourself to be.

Wow. You got all these amazing answers, from just posting your picture. I think that says it all. If what I think you are worried about, about how you look, than Don't. You are a gorgeous girl.(I like the green in your background, reminds me of this mysterious, intriguing, guy... Ah. ) If you are worried about why you feel this way, keep exploring these feelings. Find reason. I can tell, you are a beautiful person. :)

I wish I could help but I've started to realize for myself it's something I have to figure out on my own..

It's tough but I'm getting there and hopefully you will too.

You find love by loving others. You make friends by being friendly. Try to do something for someone else or for your community. Don't dwell on your failures and start each day fresh. God is a great place to start to feel loved. And the bible says I can do all things through Christ which strengthens me. I tend to lean on the scriptures for my help. That makes me feel confident.

ive been trying to figure out the same thing. its hard, but when i find myself thinking of possibilities i can accomplish, making goals, i feel confident. like, i think about exercising, raising my grades, taking drum lessons. it makes me feel like i can have a life and make better of it, instead of sitting around feeling sorry for myself.