Parenting question: My 6 yr. old came home from school and told me that the mean girl (Haley) in her class...?

It depends on the context of the words. They may not be that bad. However, if you're uncomfortable you need to call the school and let them know. Talk to other parents whose kids are in the same class and see if they're uncomfortable. You'll make a bigger point with a bigger group. You didn't give her lice did you? Then you were just relieved that you didn't have to deal with the stress for a while. There's nothing wrong with that.

- The mean girl personality seems to be appearing earlier and earlier these days possibly due to media influences or just kids growing up faster.

- Ask your daughter about her interactions at school and how she feels about them.

- Don't be afraid to discuss the issue with the teachers or others in charge.

- Make sure your child knows that it is OK to report what is going on and in fact necessary.

- Rehearse scripts with her so that she is prepared for the unkind words or being excluded.

- Encourage her to play with other "nicer" kids and help her do this by arranging play dates with the parents of those children.

- Help her build her resources.

-Talk to your child about why someone would chose to be mean and hurtful.

- Explain to her that those children usually have a great deal of sadness in them and have a very hard time feeling someone else's pain.

~ Somewhere in their life (usually at home) they feel very out of control and therefore they get some satisfaction by being in control of others. ~ They may be either neglected in some way or (as is often the case) overindulged.

- Let her know that it doesn't excuse the behavior but it may explain it a bit.

~ This is a way that you can build your own child's empathy which is such a valuable attribute.

- Be careful not to be too insistent that she not play with a "mean girl" because you don't want to make that child the forbidden fruit that your child must have.

- Try to subtly help your child unwind themselves from a person or group of kids that has these cruel tendencies by giving her alternatives.

Haley is too young to use these words. Maybe she learned them in a way no little girl should. She might be a bully because that's how she thinks she should treat people, since she's been treated this way. You need to talk to the principal. He/she can talk to Haley's parents about the situation. Talk to the teacher and other parents about it, see if they know but are afraid to say anything. You can't let it continue, both girls need to know it's not ok. Haley might think she needs help and doesn't know how to ask.

well when my son was 6 an older girl demanded that he and his little buddy pull down their pants and show her their buttocks, private spaces, and crotches. at least your 6 yr old didn't have to do a show and tell.

and no, don't feel bad about not feeling bad that the big bully got head lice

I don't know about the schools where you live, but if you complain that another kid said something about another's privates, the school sends HRS/CDS out to the home of the kid that was saying the dirty things. i think if it was my kid I would A.go to the school and DEMAND that this issue be resolved and B. be very very happy about the little witch having head lice. On a personal note, most people that can't rid thier kids of head lice in ONE day, are not going to ever win parent of the year...

My son is 31 now, but I do remember those days. There was a certain "Marla" who made a deal with him in 3rd grade. She would pull down her panties and then he was supposed to (her idea). Well he cheated her. Probably she's happily married now. Who knows? Another boy was cruising porno on the school computers in 4th grade. Little criminal.

I would have a private talk with the teacher or write him/her a short but clear letter describing the situation. It you don't try to stop it now, it will get a lot worse. Of course, you need to explain to your daughter why these people are not cool! Little girls can comprehend, even at a young age this kind of thing.

I am sorry I am not sure what you are trying to say here. Is she saying these words in a sentence or calling your child private place, crotch?? If it bothers you and your child get a hold of the teacher and find a conclusion to it.

Good luck

Buy your daughter a potty to give to Haley for being a potty mouth.

*cries with laughter at your happiness for the head lice*

honestly it might be a sign that the girl doesn't have a good home life and is exposed to things and situations that are bad influences on her. Laughing about the head lice... sigh.... not nice but understandable

Are you serious

Buttock, Private Space, Crotch and pee are bad words?

What should you do?

How about you lighting up!

I would tell my daughter that she should tell the teacher. Then I would follow up with my daughter to see if it continues. If it does continue, I would make the teacher and principal aware of the situation.