How do I break up with this girl?

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I'm 22 and having affairs with this hot chik (23) for almost 6 months now. I didn't know that she will fall in love with me. She always tells me that she wants to leave her husband and stay with me.I just want to break up with her because now I know that I don't actually love her and I don't want to destroy her family. She has an aggressive husband who loves her very much and I just want to get the hell away from this situation. I tried rejecting her calls and she hurt herself with a razor blade. After looking at the cut, I just couldn't think straight.

I just sent her a text message where i said that I don't take this relationship seriously.
This is what she exactly replied in her text message ,"u knw wat..u hav got a big problm wich i dnt like n dat s u say u r nt takin me seriously in ur life..if u r sure abt dis dan dnt cal me n txt me 4 sumtime..u r wastin ur time n u knw wat da fact is dat u jst wantd 2 go out wit me..wen u r satisfd u r avoidin me..think abt dis...dont do dis..2 luv sum1 is nt a joke..it has 2 b serious..a true luv can b found only once..n i hav dat as YOU..bt i dnt knw abt u..bye "

After I received this message, I did not contact her in anyway. It's now about 1 hour that I didn't contact her.

So, do you think that she will let go off me?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

First off sound's like you got a ghetto girl, that's a good reason to get away from her.  Secondly you as a man should have enough respect not to mess with another guys woman.  I personally would never do that if i knew a girl had a guy, that's just a pact between men, you don't do that crap.  If you want to get rid of her just keep on not talking to her, she will eventually see you dont want her and stay with her man to have that comfort.  But as for you my man, shame on you!!  You broke a sacred bond between men man....

John H · Answer

You have done a great wrong, it is almost impossible for a woman not to love a man who is feeding her c0ck.

Now you have a situation that is life threatening, and it wont get any better.

The best action you can take is to avoid contact, she has a broken heart, and was using you to get out of her relationship, and that has failed, there will be no middle ground.

After this she will hate you like no one has ever hated you before, she might tell her husband (and he might come after you), she might set out ruining your life, you might get reported for rape, she might tell the police you are a child molester.

You need to confide in someone you can trust ASAP, and so that they know before the sh1t hits the fan, and at least have established your part in the whole affair.

If she harasses you, you can ask her if she wants to discuss it with her husband and you, but this will just fuel the flames.

I just hope you learned a valuable lesson about interfering in the lives of married people.

ballerina_dancer017 · Answer

I think I'd just leave it at that and stop ALL communication with this girl. She sounds like a total nut (but that's what you get for getting involved with a married woman that young. If she's cheating at that age, she's surely starved for attention... Sorry.) This "I'll cut myself" or "I'll hurt myself" behavior is ridiculous and serves only to trap you in the relationship. It gives her a sense of control that she must be lacking in her marriage and it isn't fair to her, much less her partner, to stay involved with her if you don't feel anything for the relationship.

Let it go, let her go. It might be messy on her end for a while, but she has a husband there watching out for her. Avoid it at all costs, and with time, both her physical and emotional wounds will heal.

Lie Lie · Answer

She's not going to let go of you until you tell her how you TRULY feel about her and how you don't want to f**k up her family. She maybe mad at you, hurt herself but it'll work out at the end.

If you don't stop it soon, you'll get hurt too so you have to make her understand your not in love and show her that she need to be with her family. 

Good Luck

Smile(: · Answer

Okay. Call her and tell her you want to meet, and tell her its not for sex. Tell her that you thought about what she said (it'll comfort her), and that she has a great husband (whether you believe it or not) and that you do not want to mess up her family. Tell she's right about love not being a joke and tell her that's why you're ending it. If she loves her husband, and if you love your girlfriend or wife or whatever her title is than its simply for the best.

artemis · Answer

this girl sounds like she has mental problems and if you find words to break up with her be careful because girls pretty much hear you in another language and dont use the words we need to talk and make sure you finish with its not you its me try to get a close friend that is a girl to sort of translate as in if you said i would really like to stay but i cant be with you (translation:as much as i would like to stay and have sex with u i have a wife and kids in another part of the country )if things get out of hand you might need to get the poilce involved because this chick is trying to kill herself and belongs in a mental institution

Anonymous · Answer

Let her catch you with your finger so far up your nose that your eye hurts. She should definitely leave you, so you don't even have to break up with her.

miamifan3333 · Answer

well if she really did type it like that shes a retard or has downs or sumthin. Maybe tahts why shes cuttin herself

Whisperer · Answer

tell her you're really gay ?

or better yet, talk to her HUSBAND.

Or pretend you're gay and hit on the HUSBAND. That'll make her feel unsuperior and try to stick with her husband. ^_^

fallback_08 · Answer

Just leave her alone she will see that you are serious
about not wanting to talk to her if you just leave her alone.

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